Demigenderness

whatever we do, we can't win. we can't be seen as actually nonbinary. people binarize us and often mock us or get aggressive or dismiss and ignore our nonbinaryhood or something else.

if we don't medically transition, we are "just cis trenders."

if we do medically transition, we are "just [binary trans] eggs."

we are "technically transmasc or transfem anyways" if we don't use these terms.

we are lumped together with binary trans men and trans women if we do use these terms. our nonbinaryhood is ignored or seen as some kind of "gender-lite."

we are aggressively pressured to disclose if we're AFAB or AMAB, TMA or TME, transmasc or transfem, "boy nonbinary" or "girl nonbinary." and if we refuse to answer, people get double mad at us and pick something for us anyways.

if we show the slightest hint of something that could be interpreted as binary gendered, we are immediately binarised.

if we put a lot of effort into looking the most ambiguous or androgynous or neutral, people still try to find something. and they become aggressive. people often EXPLODE [PT: explode] when they can't gender someone by glance.

our ways of expression are constantly mocked and ignored (like neopronouns, nonbinary-centering labels for gender and orientation, basically all things that are associated with nonbinary people).

but if we choose more typical ways of expression (for example, use "he/him" or "she/her" pronouns), people use it to ignore and dismiss our nonbinaryhood.

like my pronouns are she/they. i actually prefer she over they, but want them to be used an equal amount. if i tell cishets that my pronouns are she/they, i get called “she” 100% of the time. if i tell them my pronouns are they/she, i get called “she” 99% of the time. so i’ve started having to tell people my pronouns are strictly they/them JUST to get called she and they an almost equal amount.

i shouldn’t have to do this. we shouldn’t have to do this. this is exorsexism.

Bonus points if the game has nonbinary pride stuff but still only gives you male and female player options

this is exorsexism

firstly, presentation doesnt equal gender, if a nonbinary person looks feminine but says they're nonbinary, then guess what? THEYRE FUCKING NONBINARY

secondly, yes if you dont use a persons preferred pronouns because they don't look a certain way then yes you are a transphobe

Nonbinary and intersex people are defined out of existence in almost every anti-trans bill I’ve ever read but so many of y’all only talk about how these bills affect binary perisex trans people. As if you either think these bills have no impact on nonbinary and intersex people, or you think that impact is so unimportant it’s not even worth a footnote.