The second time you fall in love with someone, youâre going to feel so relieved. When you get your heart broken for the first time, you canât imagine loving someone else again or having someone else love you. You worry about your ex finding love before you do, you worry about being damaged goods. And then it happens. Someone else loves you and you can sleep well at night.
The second time you fall in love with someone, itâs going to feel different. The first time felt like a dream almost. You were untouched, untainted by anyone. You accepted love with wide open arms and desperation. âLove me, love me, love me!â So you did. And then it fell apart and left you shocked to the core. You realized that people could be cruel and break your heart. You realized that people could stop meaning the sweet things they said to you just yesterday. So when you go into it again, youâre going to keep in mind everything that youâve learned. Youâre going to say, âLove me, love me, love meâŚuntil you donât. In which case, I would like some advance warning. Thanks!â
The second time you fall in love with someone, youâre going to compare it to your first love. Thatâs okay. Thatâs natural. Youâre going to be studying the new love with judgement and wariness. âMy ex never liked broccoli. Why the hell does this one eat so much broccoli?!â Discovering that you have the ability to love multiple people who are different and feel different is initially very jarring. Loving an unfamiliar body will leave you disoriented and in dire need of a map. Thatâs okay too. Thatâs to be expected. Just ask the new love for directions.
The second time you fall in love with someone, youâre going to suffer from a bout of amnesia. Youâre going to poke and prod at your loverâs body and be like, âWait, how do I do this again? How do I love you? I think it starts with us having a moment together in some coffee shop, right?â Itâs going to feel scary at first. Falling in love is sort of like riding a bike though. You never really forget.
The second time you fall in love with someone, youâll be a more sane person. Your first love is when you get all of your insanity out. You behave like an insane monster because your mind is freaking out about all these new powerful feelings. By the second time, however, you have an idea of what works and what doesnât. Itâs by no means perfect. The insanity will make a cameo at some point. âPeek a boo. Iâm here! Hope you didnât forget about me!â But you can usually shoo it away after awhile.
The second time you fall in love with someone, you will hopefully have better sex. Do not quote me on this.
The second time you fall in love with someone will still be exciting and you might even talk about moving in together or marriage. It will feel more âadult.â You have no idea what adult love actually is but you think it involves making coffee for each other in the morning and maybe even getting a dog. âThis is my dog, Xan. I got him with the second person I fell in love with because thatâs what you do! The first person I was in love with wouldâve killed a dog.â
The second time will not be the first time. The first time is an insane magical life gift that you can never reclaim. But thatâs okay. The second time is more real anyway. The second time can involve some amazing love.
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