Do you guys remember this post?
That post is a testimony to Jensen's innate goodness and makes me proud of him. But there's something else I wanna talk about. Read the linked post again. Do notice how Carina was treated by this sleazy agent. Do notice how she was embarrassed but felt that she couldn't/shouldn't speak up, that it wasn't worth it to make a scene. Do notice how her silence only made the creep bolder and how he escalated his inappropriate behaviour. Do notice how creep's blatantly sexual, inappropriate remarks were treated as a joke by others and how she felt undermined.
Now look at Misha's actions in the past few years. Misha put Jensen on spot and mock kissed him infront of an audience. Misha relentlessly sexualized Jensen and posted inappropriate manips of him on his twitter. Misha repeatedly misgendered jensen, with an intention to demean him. Misha repeatedly made suggestive comments about his and Jensen's relationship, implying a sexual relationship when there's none. Misha made degrading comments about Jensen -- saying what straight men are known to say to degrade another man -- by implying that Misha tops Jensen. I mean, "lol you take it up the ass, I fuck you, you're beneath me, you're not a real man" is an insult you can find since ancient Greek times and Misha uses it as an insult, that is why he asserts that he tops Jensen on a public platform. It's very similar to how that creepy agent tried to degrade Carina by implying she performed sexual acts for him.
I wanna make it clear that there's nothing inherently degrading with the idea of bottoming just like how there's nothing degrading with the idea of a woman having sex. What's degrading is the agent implying that a woman sexually sevices him, the same way how Misha implies that Jensen bottoms for him. What's horrifying is the encroachment of boundaries and lack of consent.
Notice that Jensen never responds to these remarks. He doesn't reply to Misha's creepy posts, doesn't like his cockles baiting tweets or bday wishes, doesn't engage him. Doesn't like or reply or correct Misha when he talks about "topping" Jensen. In essence, Jensen ignores these off color remarks, doesn't acknowledge them. He stays silent, just like Carina did. Perhaps he doesn't want to make a scene, doesn't want to give it more publicity and can you really blame him?
The creep agents male colleagues didn't call him out. They laughed at his "jokes", excused his inappropriate behaviour. But at least they didn't truly believe him, they didn't think Carina offered sexual favours. Misha's cult members, otoh, fully believe in Misha's words. They believe that Misha is fucking Jensen, that Jensen's okay with Misha's inappropriate behaviour. They assume consent when there's none and excuse Misha's every action. They are the worst.
We also know that Jensen hates the public tin-hat stuff. That he hates when his family sees the despicable shit cockles shippers sprout in public spaces. When Misha's cult tags Jensen and post sexual things about cockles. When they stalk and harass Jensen in order to prove the myth of cockles. There's insider info which validates these points, but tbh, it's not rocket science to figure this out. You only need basic human empathy to understand how Jensen feels about this shit but cockles freaks get off on dehumanising and sexualizing Jensen so no wonder they lack empathy.
What Misha does to Jensen is sexual harassment. That's the bottom line. There's no two ways about it. There's no consent from Jensen's side. Jensen might have joked around with Misha(just like he does with many others, including Jared) on the set and in conventions, but that doesn't imply he's okay with Misha posting creepy, offensive comments about Jensen on a public platform, broadcasting to the world. A man doing this to a female co-star would be accused of sexual harassment. A man doing this to a female co-star he's in a relationship with would also be accused of inappropriate sexual conduct. Jensen didn't consent to being the object of Misha's degrading "jokes". He doesn't participate in said jokes, doesn't even acknowledge them. What Misha is doing to Jensen would be sexual harassment even if cockles is real and J & M are in a relationship. It's that simple.
Jared and Gen often make suggestive, sexual remarks about each other. You might find them distasteful, but they enthusiastically participate in these "jokes", and laugh with each other, not at each other. Compare that with Misha's one sided obsessive "jokes" about Jensen, which are designed to glorify Misha and degrade Jensen, which are designed to bait cockles shippers so that Misha can make money out of them. Note how Misha never makes these kind of comments about his ex-wife, and how generally respectful he is of her. He clearly knows how to treat a loved one with dignity, he just doesn't care enough for Jensen to treat him with the same dignity.
I'm barely in spn fandom these days. I don't care about your ships but I care about Jensen. I've never seen another actor treated like he's treated in this fandom, objectified and sexualized and dehumanised to such a degree that it makes me nauseous just to think about. But it's one thing when fans do it, it's another when Jensen's co-stars do it. And while almost all of them are guilty of it, Misha takes it to another level. Misha/destiel/cockles fans always dismiss his creepy actions under the guise of "just a joke" which is why I paralleled this with Carina's story to show how not okay these kinds of "jokes" are. Sure Misha might not have the power to make or break Jensen's career but that doesn't mean that Jensen has the option of publicly reprimanding Misha. That it's okay for Misha to make these "jokes" about Jensen on a public platform.
ps: speaking of jokes, anyone remember how Misha "jokingly" sexualized a 14/15 year old girl who was asking for acting advice in tweet, circa 2020? Where he essentially told her to lick her zoom camera to get more views? Coz I remember. But don't worry, anything is kosher when Misha does it, as I've been told by the cult.