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Way too many people I know (via xnose)

If you can learn to love your flaws, God bless you. If you want to go ahead and get surgery to make yourself look they way you've always wanted to, God bless you too!!

So I recently ran into a sugar “master post” on here but noticed a lot of the links were broken. Since there are so many aspiring sugar babies with a ton of questions I thought I’d make a new one! Here it is: a very long compilation of my favorite tips and tricks from sugar babies all over tumblr. Enjoy! Xoxo

Safety

Deleting yourself from the internet

Sending pictures via google voice texting 

Square cash warning 

Amazon gifts safety

COP or POT?

Tips to remaining safe as a sugar baby

Phone safety

What information should you give your SD?

Verify him

Safety links for sugar babies

All about screening

How SD’s can track where you live

The Miranda warning

Internet safety tips

Receiving packages

Staying safe as a sugar baby

Sugar baby safety 

Sugar baby safety tip

Sugar baby safety & catfishing

Free background check website

Is he the real deal?

Tricking him to keep your privacy

Keeping your privacy

Very important hoe safety tip

Free-styling

Free-stying guide

Eye-contact

Turning vanilla to sugar

How to approach men while free styling

Free-styling and where to meet sugar daddies

Where to freestyle

All about free-styling

Free-styling and how to trigger a mans generosity from the start

Free-styling tips

Top three places to freestyle

Free-styling & staff

What NOT to ask him

Meeting SD’s online

Craigslist title tip

Ashley Madison

Sugar dating and craigslist

List of sugar dating sites

Sugaring using tinder

Tindering tip

How to tinder

Craigslist masterpost

Craigslist sugar

Writing/writing back to messages

The perfect message

How to message men on sugar sites

Sugaring: Tinder and OkCupid

Perfecting your message

More messaging advice

Sugar sites to check out

Weeding through messages on sugar sites

Allowance, financials, and budgeting

How to get the allowance you want

How to ask your sugar daddy for an allowance

Allowance or pay per meet?

All about money

Cash/gifts on a POT date

What form should I take my allowance in?

How to make real money

Sugar baby banking tips

Spending your sugar money

Asking for money on a POT date

Getting him to buy you something

Financial advice

Drain his bank account

When he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with allowance…

Saving money

How much can he really pay you?

Budgeting tips for sugar babes

Tips on spending your sugar money

Allowance and AmEx cards

Let’s talk budgeting

5 questions to ask before agreeing to allowance offer

What to say to get the allowance you want

Sugar banking

Allowance and bank laws

Random cash tips

He pays for what he wants

Investing 101

Allowance negotiation tactics

The art of sugar dating

How to handle a first date with a POT

What NOT to talk about on a POT date

Organizing your POTs

How to: manipulate the conversation 

How to create a positive impression

6 ways to make your sugar date the best date he’s ever had

What the hell am I going to talk to him about?!

50 unusual date ideas

Checklist the night before your date

What you need to do before your POT date

Your first POT date

Dining etiquette

Dining etiquette pt. 2

How to fake confidence

Conversation tips

Confidence

Classy conversation topics

First date conversations with your SD

What to bring in your purse on a sugar date

Bullshit to spit on dates

Things to know about wine

First date advice

How to handle a first date

100 “non allowance” questions to ask a POT on a date

How cheat your way through small talk

Conversation topics

Developing your personality

The psychology of persuasion

Seduction, manipulation & negotiation

Remember: You are an actress/actor

The art of seduction

Strategies to try on your SD

Sugar negotiation

Bullshitting 101

Make him take you seriously

How to make him want to say yes

Body language 

Master guide: Body language linguistics 

Manipulation tips

How to manipulate people into liking you more

Sugar manipulation

How to keep wealthy men coming back to you to give you more

Emotion, seduction and manipulation

Marketing yourself

How to attract a man

Perks of sugaring - power

Being your SD’s fantasy

Manipulation success

The girlfriend experience

Keeping your SD

Treat your SD right… Or someone else will

Keeping him hooked

Don’t become familiar or ordinary

Become his fantasy

Don’t forget the details

Keeping your sugar daddy

 Bedroom tips

Treating your SD right

How to keep an SD interested

Showcase yourself to yourself to your SD

Blowjob tips (for uncircumcised penises as well)

Blowjob tips

Appearance

How to make yourself more attractive

Fashion tips and dress codes

How to dress “sugar”

Hoe products

Fuck-proof makeup list

How to be a kept woman

Looking elegant

Sex prep

Lingerie masterpost

20 beauty tips

Charming cash out of your sugar daddy

Vaginal hygiene 

Invest in yourself

Sugar tote essentials

Contouring cheat sheet

A hoes guide to body care

Sugar baby check list

Platonic Sugar

A tip for aspiring sugar babes

Being a platonic SB

Being a pure sugar baby

Sugar Travel

Traveling with your SD

Travel etiquette for sugar babies

Sugar baby travel tip

Traveling sugar

General tips/info on sugaring

The rules of sugaring

Sugar baby manifesto

Sugar baby academy

How to find a sugar daddy in 6 simple steps

This lifestyle isn’t for everyone

The secrets to being a successful sugar baby

Random sugar baby tip

Great sugar tip

“Thing’s I’ve learned from living with sugar babies”

25 tips to make you better sugar

Being a successful sugar baby

10 golden rules of sugar dating

General sugar baby tips

Sugar baby general guide

Apps every sugar baby needs

Sugar baby mentality

Sugar baby survival tips

Sugar baby wisdom

Sugar baby resources

What being a SB is all about

6 common sugar baby mistakes

Remain calm, cool and collected

Things you need to remember when you start sugaring:

What SB’s often forget

You are not asking for too much!

Beginning advice for newbies

Tips for new sugar babies

Always have a plan B

Tip to new sugars

So you want to be a sugar baby…

What would you tell your newbie SB self if you could go back?

5 newbie mistakes and how to avoid them

Patience

Remember this when you become a sugar baby

4 things every aspiring SB should know

“How do I become a sugar baby?”

How to stand out as a sugar baby

“Learn from my sugar mistakes”

“When is right to start sugaring?”

Tips from a successful sugar baby

6 tips for aspiring SBs

All about him

How to know if he’s the right sponsor

Sugar daddy check list 

Don’t believe what he says

How to get him to raise your allowance

POTs

Filtering the POTs

How to spot a fake POT

Things POT’s say when they’re trying not to pay

Distinguishing sugar from salt

10 questions to ask a POT before a relationship

Figuring out if they’re salt without going on a date

“What should I say?” And personality

Don’t be mundane and predictable

When he asks “What are you willing to do sexually?”

When he complains about paying you

When he asks if you’ve had an arrangement before 

Communicating your standards

How to say “no” to your SD

How to insist on a condom

What to say when he asks “What are you looking for?”

When he says “I’ll pay you later”

Your sugar profile

Writing tips

Make your profile work for you

Face shot or no face shot? 

Random tips/things/misc.

P.O. boxes and why you should have one

“Advice I received from a whale SD”

Long distance sugar

How to be a boss ass bitch

Why love is poison for a heartless gold-digger and a guide to the antidote

How to organize your hustle 

Sugaring from scratch

“Sex is sex, but money is money”

Mandatory sugar tool

No luck finding a sugar daddy?

The official sex worker reading list

Getting your sugar daddy back

Sugar baby texting

Flip that question right back at him.

Why?

BECAUSE HE KNOWS WHAT HE’S GETTING OUT OF THIS SITUATION.

He knows his ass is getting any one or all three of these:

companionship 

sexual favors

being seen with a beautiful & intelligent woman on his arm

And most times when a POT ask you this question, it’s to determine if whether or not they can either play you to their tune, trying to decided if you are trying to get nothing but the money (which is a fucking joke because…hello, why do you think we met?!) or scam you with a low budget P4P.

And if you don’t want to flat out ask him “What’s in it for me?”

Try: 

“We both met through/by (insert wherever you found each other) so you know exactly what’s in it for you.(insert some flirty emoji or if talking face to face gently touch his hand for a second and proceed to the follow-up) So, do me a quick run through of what’s in it for me.” 

or

“We both don’t want to get played in this type of situation and I’m also wondering what I get out of this. So, how about we each list one by one the things we want and we will negotiate whether or not it works for the both of us.”

Always include a “We” or “Us” in this process because this makes a bigger connection with him and gives him a feeling that the both of you are on the same page and in this together (even if you know you’re not or don’t feel like it yet) and will most likely get him to open up more so you can work off of him and figure out what he’s looking for and hustle off of that.

On Friday I was out partying with friends. Talking to some mutual friends and am introduced to some of their friends that were visiting from NYC. One of the girls had a super familiar last name..asked her if we had met before..no okay. Then why did her name sound SO familiar (same with her face) This girl gets trashed and me being the good person I am, help her get all fixed up and have her friends get her an uber. So later I get home, decide to Facebook creep her and what to I find out?

Sugar daddies will give more allowance if they genuinely like YOU as well. All sugar daddies will of course be attracted to your beauty, however if he likes your personality as well it’s just : ka-ching!  

The whole ‘mutually beneficial’ stuff it based on that you both have power: he has the financial power, you have the sexual power. This means that while we are pondering about allowance increases, he looks for ways he can have more intimacy. Of course he is a generous and respectful sugar daddy, he won’t pressure intimacy but he remains a man… 

The more comfortable he is with YOU, the more allowance he gives. Think about it like this; the more comfortable you are with any guy the more likely you will have sex with him. The more appreciation a guy shows you, the more likely you will have sex with him. Therefore the more appreciation you show your SD the more allowance he will give you. 

Invest in developing a good relation during the first two dates, show your best side. 

Allowance talk usually starts with me during the third date, AFTER I have received a present on the second date that shows he’s serious. 

1.During the second date I will hint subtly my favorite brands, so he will know what I like. Then after we leave we ‘coincidentally’ (planning remember?) bump into my favorite store. Since he remembers what I like; he’ll ask “Shall we have a look”? :) 

2.Another tip to get your SD in shopping mood (especially if your SD is rather insecure/introvert, that is how I like them btw since I can shape them into my idea of an arrangement): go lingerie shopping. This maybe sounds a bit hypocritical since I said previously to avoid any sexual references, but I have done this quite a few times successfully. Lingerie shopping is indirectly more a gift to him, he will see it as useful (instead of a bag for example) hence he won’t mind spending on it. Go to La Perla or Agent Provocateur, pick a nice set, let him have a ‘sneak peak’ (only if you know he’s decent etc/not salty, you get what I mean) and leave the store with a 1000$+ lingerie set. 

He’s a man, he will think about that ‘sneak peak’ he just saw. That is not being a pervert, that’s just how men are. Next you go where you want to go “Won’t a pair of  heels (pointing at Jimmy Choo) go nice with it?”. Success guaranteed, since he wants you to feel pretty and appreciate him. 

After the second date, send him a picture (no lingerie/nude!..well that depends on you but it’s not advisory) wearing your newly purchased bag/shoes/idk. He’ll feel even more appreciated. Send that you are looking forward to the next meeting. He’ll me like a puppy next time you meet him ;) 

3. By the third date you should know he’s SD material. You know he likes/loves you since you make him feel appreciated/young again. This time you have invested in the beginning will now pay off since you are more comfortable with him, reversely he is definitely more comfortable with you. 

What I noticed (since I genuinely became to like my SD’s, I would advise any SB to pick one out that you like spending time with) I can comfortably ask for what allowance I need, the reaction was that they were comfortable with that too sincethey saw me more ‘like a friend’ then a stranger. 

Additionally since you have done some shopping with him he is more familiar with ‘prices’ of designer goods, hence he knows why your allowance is high. (I usually say why I need more allowance is that “I want to look nice, and I think you like me to look nice as well ;)”

Maybe the above seems natural to you, however I think that this approachresults in the best long-term arrangements, since I know that wherever I’ll be, I can ask my SD’s for help. 

Of course I have made the mistake to start about allowance too soon, as I thought that it is ‘natural’ but I came to realize that the SD’s I pick out, don’t like the idea of randomly giving money to a stranger although you spend a dinner with him. With a wrong impression the chances you can correct it are low, and if you can.. it will take much longer. 

I know as well that the Sugar Bowl can be exhausting, those endless e-mails/contacts that result in nothing, that it makes you think you can minimize your wasted-time by immediately mentioning the allowance you are expecting. Wrong! I made this mistake, it results most of the time in nothing.

Lastly this all can be difficult when you are desperate for money, luckily I have never been really without since I escort as well, but try to hide your desperation as much as possible. I see how this can be really hard, but try your best.

The right SD is human too, and doesn’t want to make this a business deal since he sees enough business on a daily basis and just want a real, great and beautiful girl like you to get a chance to have fun and relax again, and he’s willing to make your life more comfortable in return. 

Good luck! 

X

For any new sugar babies or aspiring sugar babies please take note that sugaring is not a quick way to make a lot of money doing nothing. No man is giving away money for free.But with a little bit of patience and some techniques you will maximize your sugar experience.

I am both an escort and a sugar baby. It is advantageous to have another source of income (doesn’t have to be big). This makes you less desperate for money, because when you’re desperate for money your necessary criteria for a sugar daddy will drop, with potential consequences…

 I use the money I make as an escort for basic necessities only. I never buy clothing, bags or make-up with it, and if I’ve got money left I save it. Sugaring then provides me with the luxuries and things that make my life more comfortable. I never buy expensive things with the allowance, most of the time I save 70% of my allowance and make sure I get the designer bags as gifts and clothing during shopping sprees. The other rough 30% I use to lead a mo re comfortable lifestyle.

This is my way of spending money.Of course this is not necessarily yours, but no matter how you spend it keep the following tip in mind:

1. Tell your SD that you use the money for rent/ tuition/fitness centre etc. I don’t care if you actually spend it on a whole stack of nail polish and fund your LV collection, but your SD likely wants his money to be spent in a useful manner. When you tell him you will use his dollars to afford your shopping addiction, he will give you less since he doesn’t like it. Think about the reverse situation; if you were a sugar mommy and your sugar baby needed money to fund his gaming stuff. Since you don’t like it you will less likely give money. Exactly the same works for SD’s. Since SD’s do like intellectual fit sugar babies, they will give more if you spend it wisely.

2. I always use my 3-date rule for getting allowance. Sugar daddies want you to be real, and like them for not only their money. Therefore I always ignore ‘allowance talk’ on the first date. Instead I get to really know them and connect with them. Of course I ask questions about their view on an arrangement, but I will pretend it is like a real-date. This way he knows I don’t see him like just an ATM-machine, this then makes him more comfortable in giving a bigger allowance since he knows I’m a sincere person.

The second date I make sure I get a gift. It is important that you ‘plan’ this (will save this for a later post). People give gifts because they want something from you. Your SD wants sex (eventually…). And he knows he can make you like him more by giving big gifts. Be humble and thank him to make him feel appreciated. A lot of (new) SD’s are uncomfortable with giving you directly financial assistance, thus in this approach you will make him feel more comfortable with the ‘sugar’ part of the arrangement (but my SD’s have always been very generous themselves).

On the third date you should get allowance. Since this is part of the arrangement. You can decide with you SD to get an allowance per meet in the first month or so, just so he can built trust in you. Since he likes you know a lot and he knows his money is well spent, the allowance you will receive will be much larger. This method requires a bit of patience, and is only advisory if your POT really has a lot of potential. However this method has been very successful for me. Not only did I receive a big and steady allowance, I also got the nicest gifts on our second date (with my second SD I got a bag and a wallet -both dior- on our second date).

3. Know how you will receive your allowance/set a date. I stick to getting the allowance cash. This way you will minimize any legal trouble and keep your anonymity. Furthermore I have set that every beginning of the month I will receive the full allowance on our first dinner. Personally I think it’s important to have the allowance details straight for both parties so that there is no misconception about it, to avoid drama and disappointment etc. But I think this last point is pretty self-explanatory yet important to keep in mind. 

I hope I wasn’t too wordy, but I hope this helps you to form a successful arrangement.

X 

Some questions you can ask him or yourself: 

-How many times will we meet? 

-(What is the allowance per meet?)

-Does the allowance include/exclude gifts? 

-Where will I use the money for? 

-How much allowance is achievable? (setting 20,000+ as an expectation for 4 meets a month sure isn’t, yet there are exceptions)

-When will I get the allowance? 

-Is the allowance per meet/monthly?

-Do I get extra if I spend a full weekend/week with my SD?

*doesn’t give allowance*

him: we can still get together if you want

me: no

him: wow okay fine. bye.

him: wow i see how it is!

me: 

him: now i know the real you