Daisy's Chains

This is written mostly for inexperienced subs who are seeking doms. I would also recomend less experienced doms read as well, I could have used a lot of this advice when I first got started. If you have a lot of S&M experience, you probably won't get much from this post. Feel free to add to it if you reblog. Full checklist under the cut.

Awhile ago, I wrote the above post explaining several red flags and warning signs in Doms for less experienced submissives to be aware of. This is the inverse. Written mostly for inexperienced Doms who are seeking subs, from the perspective of an experienced Dom. I would recommend less experienced subs read as well. My hope is that this post is a resource for others and helps to improve kink safety and understanding. Please remember to research everything you do before you do it and trust your gut. Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with.

The rings have 1px wide borders that oscillate out of phase with their interiors, and your eyes perceive the phase shifted borders as moving edges. It’s really neat, our optic nerves have specific hardware for edge detection and this gif fools it!

So I look up a pretty prominent Star Wars guild and message one of their council and ask them to poll the same question and get back to me in a week. They do, and naturally the fuckin geeks said "Death Star".

"Of course," Ty says, pupils dilating. His arm is around his wife's waist, and he hands her over easily, saying, "Have fun."

"Don't worry," Rina tells him, wrapping her own arm around Ty's wife Gracie's waist. "We always do."

Gracie giggles, following as Rina leads her out of the main crowd of the party and up to one of the many bedrooms upstairs. "Leaving my poor husband alone to the wolves, are we?"

"I'm just borrowing you for a bit," Rina assures her. "I'll give you back."

The party's host already gave Rina permission to use any guest bedroom she'd like--not that the poor dear was likely to refuse Rina anything while stuffed full of Rina's strap--so Rina picks one more or less at random.

She closes the door behind her, then says, "I think you're a little empty, Gracie."

"Oh," Gracie breathes as the trigger takes hold, looking down between her legs. She squeezes them together. "Oh, I am empty."

Right now ninety-five percent of her brainpower is being consumed by knowledge of how empty her cunt is, and how much she needs it filled, and in that five percent left there is no room for how to actually fill it.

So Rina says, "Take off your shoes and get up on the bed on your hands and knees."

Gracie does, her tight dress riding up to show her lace panties underneath, already going sheer with moisture. Rina walks over, deliberately slowly, to brush one finger over Gracie's panties, right over her needy hole.

"Oh please," Gracie moans, wanton. "Please fill me up, please, I'm so empty, I'm so empty."

"Is that what you want?" Rina asks, deliberately cruel. She strokes Gracie again, so close to what Gracie wants but yet so far. "You want me to fill up your greedy little cunt? You want me to stuff it full? I could send you back out to your husband like that, plug in your cunt, someone else filling up that hole of yours."

Gracie whimpers, high and wordless, then babbles, "Please, yes, please."

Rina shoves Gracie's panties to the side and sinks three fingers into Gracie's cunt.

Gracie wails.

"I could put anything in here," Rina muses, "and you would let me, wouldn't you?" She fucks her fingers in and out while she talks. "Just so long as you're full."

There was this woman poet in 4th century China called Su Hui (蘇蕙), a child genius who had reportedly mastered Chinese characters by age 3.

At 21 years old, heartbroken by her husband who left her for another woman, she decided to encode her feelings in a structure so intricate, so beautiful, so intellectually staggering that it still baffles scholars to this day.

Came to be known as the Xuanji Tu (璇璣圖) - the "Star Gauge" or "Map of the Armillary Sphere" - it's a 29 by 29 grid of 841 characters that can produce over 4,000 different poems.

Read it forward. Read it backward. Read it horizontally, vertically, diagonally. Read it spiraling outward from the center. Read it in circles around the outer edge. Each path through the grid produces a different poem - all of them coherent, all of them beautiful, all of them rhyming, all of them expressing variations on the same themes of longing, betrayal, regret, and undying love.

The outer ring of 112 characters forms a single circular poem - believed to be both the first and longest of its kind ever written. The interior grid produces 2,848 different four-line poems of seven characters each. In addition, there are hundreds of other smaller and longer poems, depending on the reading method.

At the center a single character she left implied but unwritten: 心 (xin) - "heart." Later copyists would add it explicitly, but in Su Hui's original the meaning was even more beautiful: 4,000 poems, all orbiting the space where her heart used to be.

Take for instance the outer red grid of the Star Gauge. Starting from the top right corner and reading down, you get this seven-character quatrain:

仁智懷德聖虞唐，

貞志篤終誓穹蒼，

欽所感想妄淫荒，

心憂增慕懷慘傷。

In pinyin, it is:

Rén zhì huái dé shèng yú táng,

zhēnzhì dǔ zhōng shì qióng cāng,

qīn suǒ gǎnxiǎng wàng yín huāng,

xīn yōu zēng mù huái cǎn shāng.

Notice how it rhymes? táng / cāng / huāng / shāng

The rough translation in English is: "The benevolent and wise cherish virtue, like the sage-kings Yao and Shun, With steadfast will I swear to the heavens above, What I revere and feel - how could it be wanton or dissolute? My heart's sorrow grows, longing brings only grief."

Now read it from the bottom to the top and you get this entirely different seven-character quatrain:

傷慘懷慕增憂心，

荒淫妄想感所欽，

蒼穹誓終篤志貞，

唐虞聖德懷智仁。

The pinyin:

Shāng cǎn huái mù zēng yōu xīn,

huāngyín wàngxiǎng gǎn suǒ qīn,

cāngqióng shì zhōng dǔzhì zhēn,

táng yúshèngdé huái zhì rén.

It rhymes too: xīn and qīn, zhēn and rén

And the meaning is just as beautiful and coherent: "Grief and sorrow, longing fills my worried heart, Wanton and dissolute fantasies - is that what you revere? I swear to the heavens my constancy is true, May we embody the sage-kings' virtue, wisdom, and benevolence."

That's just 2 poems out of the over 4,000 you can construct from the Xuanji Tu!

At the very center of the grid, the 8 red characters wrapped around the central heart, she "signed" her poem with a hidden message:

詩圖璇玑，始平蘇氏。 "The poem-picture of the Armillary Sphere, by Su of Shiping."

Or reversed:

蘇氏詩圖，璇玑始平。 "Su's poem-picture - the Armillary Sphere begins in peace."

Many scholars, and even emperors, throughout Chinese history have been completely obsessed by Su Hui's puzzle.

For instance, in the Ming dynasty, a scholar named Kang Wanmin (康萬民) devoted his entire life to the poems (kangshiw.com/contents/461/2…), ending up documenting twelve different reading methods - forward, backward, diagonal, radiating, corner-to-corner, spiraling - and extracting 4,206 poems. His book on the subject ("Reading Methods for the Xuanji Tu Poems", 璇璣圖詩讀法) runs to hundreds of pages.

Empress Wu Zetian herself, the legendary woman emperor of the Tang dynasty, wrote a preface to the Xuanji Tu around 692 CE (baike.baidu.com/item/%E7%BB%87…).

Incredibly, there's even far more complexity to the Xuanji Tu than just the poems:

- The name 璇玑 (Xuanji) - Armillary Sphere - is astronomical in meaning and the way the poems can be read mirrors the way celestial bodies orbit around a fixed center. It's a model of the heavens.

- Her original work, with the characters woven on silk brocade, was in five colors (red, black, blue/green, purple, and yellow) which correspond to the Five Elements (五行) - the foundational Chinese philosophical system that explains how the universe operates. So it's also a model of the entire cosmic order according to ancient Chinese philosophy.

- It's also of course deeply mathematical with this 29 x 29 perfect square grid, with sub-squares, lines and rectangles, and a structure which allows for symmetrical reading patterns in all directions

- Last but not least, the content of the poems themselves contain multiple registers. On top of expressing her personal grief and longing for her husband, it's also filled with accusations against the concubine (Zhao Yangtai) he left her for, reflections on politics (with many references to sage-kings) and philosophical reflections.

So the Star Gauge is simultaneously:

- A love letter (expressing personal longing)

- A legal brief (arguing her case against her rival)

- A cosmological model (structured like the heavens)

- A Five Element diagram (encoding the fundamental structure of the world according to ancient Chinese philosophy)

- A mathematical construction with perfect symmetry and precision

And yet, for all this complexity, we should not forget this was all ultimately in service of the simplest human message imaginable: a 21-year-old woman asking the love of her life "come back to me".

Her husband did, eventually. According to what empress Wu Zetian herself wrote in her preface to the Xuanji Tu, when he received Su's brocade he was so "moved by its supreme beauty" that he sent away his concubine and returned to his wife. As the story goes, they lived together until old age.

The heart at the center was filled after all.

The reason this stuff is judged to be seriously superior for some baking is that—unlike baking powder and baking soda—in the finished product you can't taste that any leavening product has been used. The heat of the baking process drives off the ammonia (and you betcha, you'll smell it then!). But the final baked product will be light and beautifully risen, and will taste of nothing but the non-leavening ingredients. It's frankly kinda magical.

(More about the chemistry of leavening agents, and some discussion of the comparisons among them, is here.)

I think one of you is a switch (s?) so maybe this is something you could also answer from both sides?

Great questions! We reached out to a couple doms in our circle for their pov:

“The thing about denial (and all of D/s) that many people don’t understand is that, at its core, it’s a decision the submissive is making. And that’s what makes it so fucking addictive as a Domme.

I may tell my sub she’s not allowed to orgasm, but it’s her choosing to surrender and comply that actually stops her from going over the edge. I can work her up, edge and torment her for hours, wipe away her desperate tears, but she’s the one deciding that being controlled and owned by me is a greater, more fulfilling pleasure than even her own climax.

In fact, I've even offered a sub the chance to orgasm before. I'll go as far as to tell her, "Go ahead. You're more than welcome to cum if the denial is too much for you."

And the sub says no. Every fucking submissive says no and rejects my generous offer! Because they know I don't want them to orgasm. And pleasing me, being owned by me, is so much better than any pleasure they'll ever feel from an orgasm.

And holy fuck, that’s a drug I’ll never stop hitting.”

- @femininedomminance

“Bodily autonomy is one of the most critical and fundamental rights you can have. The right to do as you wish with your own body is sacred.

The more deeply held a value is, the more intrinsic, the more 'powerful' (for want of a better word) it is to play with it.

If I can make someone compromise a core part of their basic rights, simply because I want it? Now that's a rush.

There are a million other benefits like neediness, corruption over time (you wouldn't believe the depraved things r has said/done for me), conditioning, etc. But I think those other benefits are quite thoroughly documented on this blog so I don't feel the need to go into them.”

I'm in TTRPG and so much the AI encroachment has basically been;

Here's a bot to design entire campaigns, it'll RP the NPCs for you

Here's a character bot to make all your characters for you

I'm building an advice AI that'll choose what action/spell is best