unlearning and loving

Im leaving tumblr :(

This platform has served me in so many ways in the past in terms of self-growth and coming into my queerness, but recently it has done just the opposite. I’ve been getting more and more hate mail and lesbophobia/homophobia/transphobia than ever (which I haven’t been sharing for trigger reasons) simply because I refuse to let my trans followers feel alone against terfs.

Maybe I’ll be back, maybe not, but thank you so so much to all of my supportive mutuals and followers who have left me positive messages and offered their allyship, even anonymously.

Even when I’m away from this site, I will not stop fighting for minorities and for what is right.

Hi love!

A lesbian is essentially a woman who is attracted to other women. A lesbian can be non-binary, gender-queer and some even use he/him pronouns but the most boiled down definition is a female homosexual.

I wouldn’t recommend using the internet to search for these answers as at the moment, the term lesbian has been very sexualized and you might stumble across something inappropriate, but this is a safe space for you and I also recommend sites such as childline which contain a lotta helpful and safe information.

Hi love!

I just wanna let you lot know that I won’t be active on this account for a couple of weeks. I’m still getting a lot of transphobic/lesbophobic comments and anon hate which I’m not sharing and it’s very mentally taxing.

I know that I’m speaking from a place of privilege and that these struggles are not more important or greater than the struggles of the trans community. I will always use my voice and power to fight for wonderful trans folks and all other minorities/oppressed groups.

Please note that a lot of you have been asking for my personal advice on your situation- thanks for reaching out! But please remember that I’m not a professional therapist or psychiatrist. I can’t diagnose you or get you any proper help, but I can offer support.

I wanna also say a massive thank you to everyone who’s shown their support for the trans community on this page. That’s actual queen shit, thank you so much.

This is a wonderful space sometimes but it can also be somewhere I’m uncomfortable and afraid and I’ll not let that affect my mental health so much for now.

This has a rlly long answer but short hand there’s this thing called bottom surgery ya know where trans people get surgery to change their genitals? Yep a very wonderful thing in my opinion

A lotta trans people may choose not to have surgery for lots of different reasons, in which case it’s just someone’s personal choice whether they wanna be with that person sexually or romantically. Either way, that person’s identity regarding sexuality is still valid.

Anyway yeah someone’s ‘surgery status’ as I like to call it shouldn’t really put you off of dating them but in a lotta cases this could cause discomfort and dysmorphia (for both parties) sexually so it’s really important to communicate and be respectful of transgender identities.

I wanna add that there is no one way to date or be sexually intimate with anyone, let alone trans people, so just do what you want and what works for you!! Just remember that trans women are women and trans men are men ✨

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