Daddy's Princess

Also some things to keep in mind when dating someone with anxiety.

- “Just chill.” - “Calm down.” - “There’s nothing to be anxious about.”* - “Why do you need so much attention?” - Don’t point out how often we do things. (Like apologizing, asking the same questions over and over, etc.) It makes some people feel worse about things they don’t necessarily mean to do. - “Why didn’t you just say something? ” (In nearly any situation. It’s not like we don’t want to. ) - “Why do you always ______?” - Do NOT sigh when you have to do something like ask a question, pay/order food. Sometimes it’s hard doing what should be trivial things. - You will hear the phrase “I’m sorry.” A lot. Though it may feel frustrated, just reassure them it is okay. They will feel so much better. - N E V E R SAY “It’s so cute how you get nervous.”

“I’m here.”

“It’s gonna be okay.”

“You’re safe.”

“You’ll get through this.”

“It will pass.”

“You are okay, even if it doesn’t feel like it, it will soon.”

“I love you.”

Nothing. For my partner, just hold me. For my friends and family just give me space and give me a hug after it passes.

What helped the most was that my partner learned what helped me, both things for in the moment (medititation, breathing, grounding) and for proactive prevention (sleep, yoga, keto, salt floats, etc…). So he knows what to say and do when I am panicked.

But it can be overwhelming for him sometimes, and that is okay.

Remember no one is perfect, it is okay to say the wrong thing or not know what to say occassionally. Just talk to them about how you can be supportive and learn from it.

Hey loves!

So, par for the course, my rules have garnered the attention of folks who have made it their personal crusade to bash D/s and DD/lg. This is just fantastic, and I welcome them to come chat with me with my own mind and heart open, hoping they’ll do the same.

The title of this note is a comment that was placed on my rules that fascinated me. I’d like to take a little time to look at it, answer it, and expand upon the ideas that made somebody type it out.

First things first. I am both of the things in that question.

My Dominant loves me.

My Dominant WANTS me.

Why would it be sick for him to want the woman and little girl to whom he is committed for the rest of his life?

Oh…. oh wait… okay…. next thing then, right? Perhaps you didn’t realize that somebody can be both at once? That’s totally understandable, and a common misunderstanding. Let me explain how it works for you.

See, I’ve always been exactly who I am today. I’ve been a strong, competent, intelligent woman when it comes to academia or my career. I make hard decisions. I organize until I’m surrounded by sticky notes and task lists.

And in the middle of all of this, I pop out of my office to be a spunky little ball of immaturity and energy.

Amidst my exams and volunteering opportunities, I crawled into bed with some stuffed animals.

No matter how stressed out I became, I could stop and gasp delightedly at beautiful flowers.

This was all before I knew about any kind of Caregiver/Little community. (Though I can and will easily admit to having been involved in BD/sM through all of my adult life).

@1-sadistic-lover came into my life as a masochists dream of a booty call. A man who rejected the ideas presented by “Daddy Doms”, at whom he scoffed. He was a proper, serious, sadistic Dominant. Not some fluffy man engaged in something so close to the epidemic of fetishizing underage girls that runs rampant in our society.

SOMEhow…. intelligent woman and cold, calculating sadist, came to the realization that, even though I’m an incredibly driven, responsible, independent human being…. I also happen to be a Little.

These things are not mutually exclusive.

These titles are used by legal adults to acknowledge and identify parts of themselves.

If you come across these dynamics and it is somehow displeasing to you, take your time to unfollow, block or through some other avenue remove the offensive material from your presence.

But don’t presume to know what it means, who those people are, or that something is inherently wrong with them living their lives in the way that brings them joy.

Xoxo

The best thing about being a part of this community, is the acceptance. It doesn’t matter whether you’ve been into BDSM, D/s, CG/l or any of the so many other branches for years and years or you’re just discovering yourself and the things you enjoy. You’re accepted here. I’m accepted here. And acceptance within a community is something I’ve been searching for, for so much longer than I like to admit to even myself. Being mixed, bisexual, a Little sub, a mom, it’s been hard to find somewhere that I can be all of those things and not be judged for any single one. When I joined Tumblr, I honestly didn’t think I’d become so invested in another form of social media. But it eventually became a way for me to share who I really and find so many like minded people to relate to and chat with and connect. And I’m so beyond thankful for all of you. Even if we haven’t actually had a conversation or any kind of interaction. Following your blogs and reading about your lives and being allowed to see into who you really are has opened my eyes to so much. And I thank you all for that. You’ve helped me accept myself.

It’s more than following someone on social media. It’s more than clicking like or reblog. It’s a community. It’s a family. It’s a Tribe🖤

@instructor144 @sincerely-savage-gentleman @babygirl-1972 @lovely-dahlia @leadhership @doctordaddysir @daddys-little-sweetheart2 @delightfulsubgirl @cutiepieida @little-rosebud12 @tooprettytolive @rosy-lil-kitten @the-faculty @lovemysub @dom-cbp

If you can’t say “I’m beautiful,” begin by shutting down the “I’m ugly” thoughts and saying “I’m a person.”

If you can’t say “I’m valuable” begun by shutting down the “I’m worthless” thoughts and say “all people deserve basic respect, and I’m a person.”