A lot of folks like to focus on, or think about, the obvious and initial humiliations of dating in diapers. The first disclosure, and of course the first time you're intimate. I've not seen many people mention the other 100 little humiliations that follow during the "break in period" of a new relationship with an incontinent partner. Your able bodied partner has to learns in a hurry what it took you years to come to terms with. It's one thing to say "I don't care that you need to wear diapers." It's a totally different thing to see it.
Watching your partner mess himself for the first time.
Watching your partner leak into his pants for the first time.
Noticing for the first time that he stuffs his diaper with a liner before he goes to bed, or wants to drink. Noticing his diaper is EVEN larger than it already was.
The reality of learning yes, he gets diaper rash, and, yes, it makes him fussy.
Learning he keeps an over sized diaper bin in his closet.
Learning he has to "air out", and seeing it.
Watching him snap on his onesie, and having him explain to you it's adaptive clothing and not fetish wear.
Learning to sleep on crinkling plastic sheets
Having to buy him baby powder and butt paste when you're grocery shopping.
Learning all of his drawers are reserved for his diapers.
Discovering what stale morning piss smells like, and realizing that's every morning from here on out.
Learning diapers are both a hassle AND embarrassing to travel with.
Learning your boyfriend has the same vibrator as you, in a different color. And having to hear him explain it's because he doesn't like to get pee on his hand every-time he masturbates .
Learning and seeing he shaves himself bare below the waist to make his diaper changes faster and cleaner.
Watching him put down a "puppy pad" before long car trips or on his home office chair.
Accepting that his room smells like a nursery, and there's nothing you can do about it.
Being peed on for the first time.
And a hundred other little humiliations. Every day.
All this is to say I have a VERY patient and accepting girlfriend, and I'm very thankful.
Comment on any you're curious about and I'm happy to expound on the experience this weekend.
