Dad-isms: Things I've Learned So Far

If you believe you’re happy, you are.

The way he asks you about your day is even different. 

In the beginning, there is no hesitation at all.  Imagine a fireman who was wishy-washy about saving a family in a burning house?  Your soul mate is the one rushing in, no holdbacks, no hesitation, just running towards.  Towards.  He knows exactly what he is doing in being with you because he is on a mission to do so.  

Find a man with this kind of purpose.  Draw to him.  If he flinches...he’s not the one.

Here’s the truth:

1.  Alpha’s, in the traditional sense, don’t want to attach themselves to anyone...for very long.  They are constantly looking over your shoulder for the next thing, constantly checking their phones or inconspicuously not checking them at all.

2.  Alpha’s have the highest divorce rate - period.  See #1.  You can’t change or fix these people.  They have an insatiable desire to win things over, then discard.  Win, discard.  This is their formula.

3.  Real alpha’s are the kind male or females that you probably put in the ‘friend’ zone.  Too nice, too sensitive, too giving...too.  This actually takes more guts than the one with the strong jaw-line or perfect silhouette that avoids your messages and calls for hours (or days).  These nice ones actually take the risk of getting their hearts smashed into a thousand pieces, the faux alphas keep a wall around their hearts, because deep down, they’ll never love anyone more than themselves.  

“But Dad, nice guys aren’t very fun, they aren’t really a challenge...”.  It depends on what you want to “ride” I guess?  A roller coaster or a merry-go-round.  I don’t have to tell you which one eventually makes you sick.  “Having fun” for a bunch of years and then waiting until you are 25-30 years old to settle down will severely narrow the field.  Remember the alpha’s forumla:  win, discard.  Good guys and girls settle down and marry other good guys and girls, this is called maturity and discernment.  

How many faux alphas do you see walking around the mall or down the beach holding their wives or husbands hand after ten years?  Arm candy comes with a high price.