They end up tying a string to everything they deem as a gift from them.

“But a true gift needs nothing in return”

If someone wants something in return it’s a barter. Would you agree if they gave full disclosure. Probably not! This is lying through omission. And is so very disingenuous that it is hard to believe we keep volunteering to be used as target practice. Yet only when we look back we have been groomed as a child to play this roll. Or face the character assassination what has been construed as being “Ungrateful”

Yet we keep walking into it again and again. It’s been said that crazy is doing the same thing over n over again expecting different outcomes. Yet we are being scientific about it studying the subtle nuances of this dynamic.

The boundary needs to for us. As we somehow believe we or they will change. It’s funny that our delusion is they will get better. And that may only work through personal, group and family therapy. It’s like a filter that keeps the water and air clean.

Removing yourself from playing this character is where your power is.

Not all of us can do it

It takes a lot of self will. And enduring the labels fired at us, like “your selfish” “ ungrateful”

Love D

Spelled this out for my friend