I can't believe how far this has been taken. This "drama" started a few weeks ago, when I saw Bonnie (Beau) answer an honesty hour question on the dash that hinted about a previous relationship between her and Damon. Because our characters were married, and because I thought Bass and I were friends, I asked in our group chat with A. They explained the plot to me but didn't say anything about my question overstepping any boundaries. I also reached out to Beau to plot about it. Even though I was hurt by this (finding something out that affects my character on the dash), I was determined to make the best of it. Screenshots will be under the cut, but me and Beau had (what I thought) was a fun and normal conversation about how we could play it with Elena and Bonnie when the truth came out.
At another point, Bass's Damon and another character named Mavi were interacting. This plot also had to do with Elena, and again, I thought Bass was my friend. We used this group chat to talk about plots and characters, so I asked what Mavi and Damon were getting up to. Again, the question was answered but there was no mention to me of that making Bass feel suffocated.
At this point, Damon and Elena had reconnected a bit, she turned over the demon dagger she was using to kill people, and overall it felt like they were on the up and up. We had also discussed her looking for the dagger because if she didn't continue to steal souls, Damon would die. I posted a starter for this that never got a reply, maybe a month or so ago at this point.
When browsing the tags, I saw that Bass had joined another group as Damon. I was really hurt by this, because we always talked about leaving together, and it felt like a betrayal. Again, I just thought we were friends, I thought they would want me to go with them. It hurt because I was realizing in that moment that we really weren't as close as I thought we were.
The next day, we talked about it. I apologized for calling them out and coming off like a b*tch. I said I was fine in regards to that conversation. Then, we had the conversation that I'm sure everyone has seen the screenshots of (but regardless will be below). Bass says that I'm being controlling and suffocating for asking about Damon and the other girls (Mavi and Bonnie). And also talks about my and A's chemistry and how it makes them feel. Again, I was really hurt by all of this because it felt like a misjudgment of my character. I got angry, and YES, I could have explained myself better and been less of a bitch.
Regardless, I decided to just stop talking to Bass because my feelings were hurt. That's literally the only reason. I was sad. It seemed like they were going to leave the group anyway, so I was moving on. They hadn't posted in a while, my starter was still ignored, etc. I was writing Elena getting her feelings back and feeling much better, and that was really fun!
Then, I saw Bass' starter for Bonnie and Damon for the bonfire on the dash. This made me upset for a few reasons. But most importantly, they said that Damon had been spending the night at Bonnie's for several nights. In the first paragraph of this starter, they also said something along the lines of "situations like this always lead them back to each other" and like "she's his safe place" or whatever. So I talked to Cyn about it, because Damon not living at home anymore directly affects Elena and goes against what I've been doing with her. She wouldn't be happy and having a good time if her husband had been ignoring her and sleeping somewhere else for days? She'd be stressed! Sad, even! I never cared that Damon was doing this, I just didn't know and therefore couldn't plan how it connected to Elena and how it affected her. It made my plots seem confusing.
I reached out to Cyn about this. I cannot screenshot anything from Cyn because they have me blocked. But basically, I voiced my concerns, saying that Bass had been ignoring me and I wasn't sure what to do about it, and that I was concerned Bonnie and Damon were engaged romantically and that I hadn't been told about it.
There were then several group chats, one with Cyn, Brooke, A, and me where we talked about Bass feeling left out of our plots. We aired our issues, basically everything I've already said. And clarified that Bass was more than welcome to reply to anything I'd written. I had an Elena starter they'd still ignored, and I'd posted 4 open starters for the bonfire in the past week.
We then had another group chat with Cyn, Brook, Bass, and me in order to figure out what to do with Damon and Elena. We decided to move forward with the divorce, and I voiced my concern about god-modding Elena. I just wanted to know in advance about anything that affects the way I play her. For example, if her husband hasn't been home for four days, that affects her. I wasn't trying to be controlling, I just wanted to be informed so I could use that information to play my character correctly.
After this, and for what reason I have no idea (still), Bass sent A the screenshots of our conversation (where I was angry) to A, calling me a liar. A sent screenshots of that conversation to me and also to Cyn. I talked to Cyn and they said they were going to talk to Bass because the issue should have been dropped by now. The funniest part is, I talked to A right before this happened, talking about how bad I felt about the whole thing, and was thinking about reaching out to Bass to apologize for my part in things before they sent these screenshots. Obviously, I didn't end up doing that because of the screenshots that A received and the insinuation that I was a liar.
At this point, I was already thinking seriously about leaving. A person I thought was my friend and I got into a fight that really spiraled and it was making me sad in real life. I just didn't want to deal with it. That is the only reason why I left. I had absolutely zero intention of bringing anyone other than A and M with me because we had already decided to continue our characters together. A has already posted the screenshots of all the conversations of people reaching out to us, so I won't rehash that here. But it never ONCE crossed my mind to "mastermind a destruction of the group" or anything like that. I just again, was really fucking sad that this had all gone down with someone I thought was my friend. It was affecting my muse, and I found it really hard to write anything at all. That's why I left. That's literally the only reason.
Now. Onto the group chat. Obviously, those screenshots were sent around to try and make A and I look bad. They are very obviously doctored to remove all the negative things that Bass had to say about literally everyone, including both Cyn and Beau. Bass on multiple occasions talked about leaving the group because of how miserable they were. I cannot provide screenshots because I left this group. I never would have leaked these anyway. This was a safe space between three friends. We complained. We're human. All three of us vented there, including Bass. I've apologized to those who have been mentioned in the screenshots, and they were very understanding.
I just wanted to say my piece finally. I had no intention of tanking the group or bringing everyone with me when I left. I just wanted to write my characters with people who liked me as a person and writer.
