Crystiannia

To be honest, I started this blog to find support and learn to understand the community. However, most of what I’ve seen is poly people saying “don’t date monogamous people.”

You know what? I get that.

As a lesbian, I myself am guilty of advising my friends over and over again, “never fall for a straight girl.”

But for the first time in my life, I am in the shoes of the ever elusive and heartbreaking “straight girl.” Let me tell you, as I search for my place in this new world, these are lonely shoes to stand in. Sometimes as I reach out to the online poly community for support in a tough hour, all I see are glaring statements that seem to scream: YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS ALREADY DOOMED AND IT’S YOUR FAULT.

I know this isn’t the intent, but it sure makes me feel despondent about the valleys I go through. It’s no one’s fault, and these words are not spoken with poor intent. Simply, these people have attempted to have a relationship with people who are wired differently than they are. These situations notoriously don’t work out very often, so I understand why the viewpoint on poly-mono relationships is so negative.

Honestly, I guess I just wanted to reach out and say hey, some people in poly relationships are monogamous. And some of us (maybe just me) are trying to discover where we fit in the polyamorous community. So, maybe, open up the door a bit and give us a hug?

A reminder that “male” armour usually works just as well with female bodies. If you’re trying to design something practical, useful and historical looking (or even just something the follows the laws of physics), never ever put in boob cups. Aside from the fact they give the armour a sort of “focus point” for swords, falling down on them would send the shock right into the sternum. Regular plate armour leaves enough space between the chest for small to medium sized boobs anyway. But say the girl underneath is a buxom lass, you can still avoid that cleavage, boob cup shape while leaving enough space for her melons.

But aside from plate, things like the top picture, chainmail and all sorts of leather armour are unisex. I know you might be thinking that the feminine thing to do when designing a female warrior is to show off a bit of thigh or neck or cleavage or something, but really, understand that if the goal of that armour is to protect completely, putting an obvious gap in it is a terrible idea and she’ll surely get stabbed very quickly.