there is no such thing as a 'pure' desire untouched by various societal pressures and bigotries and stressors and traumas. there's no way to know what sexuality would look like stripped bare of everything that influences it. and either we can embrace that complicated mess, or we can spend till the end of the world trying to figure out what Correct Sexual Desire looks like and in the process further traumatize and exclude anyone who doesn't fit that image. and frankly, that sounds extremely unsexy to me.

and needless to say, you will never be able to try to force people to do sex right without rubbing directly up against radfeminist bullshit. the minute you find yourself in the same corner as people who think a submissive woman who wants to be slapped is setting feminism back centuries, you have taken a wrong turn somewhere.

Stars of Cassiopeia, Draco, Ursa Major and Ursa Minor in relation to Polaris

i am sooo pro-cheating in fiction omg wdym you want them to ethically break things up with their significant other before getting together that actively makes it less hot 🙄 like literally whats the point then 🙄 bring back UNETHICAL NON-MONOGAMY!!!!

"theyll hate you for this" "but theyll be alive" is THE juiciest thing to me

i will ensure you stay alive above all else. even if what i do to make it happen is horrendous. even if it violates all your wishes or moral principles. even if you can never look at me the same way again, even if you hate me for it. because at least if you hate me it means youre alive

It really is me and my locked blogs against the world.