Let’s talk about “nail shaming”
p.s. Yes I literally just made up that term, but it works so we’re gonna go with it
p.p.s Get ready for copious parentheses and commas, ‘cause I love them both
To begin here is a magnificent guide to nail maintenance by the wonderful spanishmal.
I’ve been seeing a lot of posts lately (mostly on Facebook, but it happens here occasionally) where people decide to insult, harass, and shame a dog owner for one simple thing. It doesn’t matter if their dog is well-cared for, exercised, and fed appropriately with an enriched environment; if that dog’s nails are showing, and they aren’t just as short as they should be, that person is in danger of being publicly shamed by fellow dog enthusiasts.
I’m gonna be honest, this is a defensive post. I’m pretty conscious of what pics I post of Aang and if I notice his nails look too long, I won’t post that picture, even if it’s the cutest one I’ve ever taken.
Here are Aang’s nails a couple weeks ago. Just let it be known that it was “nail day”, they’re dirty from the dog park, and within an hour of taking this picture I had cleaned and trimmed them so that they no longer had that slight curve.
Obviously, they’re far from ideal and I never posted this super cute picture to social media because of it. I have seen owners of dogs with nails similar to this be torn apart in certain groups without thought to either the owner’s feelings or why a dog’s nails might look this bad.
My dog came to me with longer nails. He came to me with an aversion to having his feet handled. Correcting both of these things is a work in progress, and frankly, one that is not easy to make progress on. Because despite his aversion, I need to make sure his nails don’t get out of hand, and this requires me to hold him still and trim his nails despite his protest, which furthers his aversion to having his feet touched. Even with all the bribes and positive reinforcement I can offer, trimming his nails is so stressful to my dog that I only put him through it about once a week. All of which makes for very slow, frustrating progress (not to mention that we’re also working on desensitizing him to the dremel, so that I can grind his nails without this much stress).
This is what they look like a few weeks after the previous picture and after being trimmed the day before.
Still not my ideal, but definitely not as cringe-worthy, and in my opinion, not a bad length for the average pet owner who may not be as involved or as educated on these matters.
Now, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t say something if a dog’s nails are too long. If they’re slightly overgrown, as are Aang’s, and you feel you should say something, talk to the owner privately. Say “hey, I noticed Blah’s nails seem a little long, are they averse to having them trimmed? Have you try blank? Is this picture recent? Have they been trimmed since?” etc. Be polite. It might be that they are well aware of the problem and are on the road to fixing it or took a cute picture before they actually went about trimming their dogs nails.. If they didn’t realize the nails were too long, kindly educate!
If a dog’s nails are seriously over grown, to the point of being detrimental to their immediate health (ex. and ex.), it’s totally ok to say something (and, I feel, ok to say something publicly). As long as you are being polite and respectful! No one learns anything from insults and shouting (except maybe what a wonderfully creative and expansive vocabulary you possess). Politely point out the issue with the dog’s nails and try to educate the owner about proper nail care and why it’s important (wonderfully helpful link at the top of this post).
If the owner isn’t having it, or gets defensive to the point of belligerence, leave the conversation. As my dad always says “Don’t wrestle with a pig; you only get muddy and the pig likes it too much.”