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Yeah it's perfectly okay to cut people off if they drain your energy but remember that people are not plants. And you are not gardening. Okay, bad analogy but here me out. People are people. Not trash that you take them out because it's stinking and you're sick of it. Sure, there are very trashy people. But ask yourself this: Am I cutting this person out of my life because they suck or because they did this thing to piss me off and I don't have the energy or courage to confront them about it? I say this time and again. This doesn't apply for abusive people. Ghost them. Run for your life and sanity. But with everyone else? That person who's been your friend for 10 years or that boy you went out with for 2 dates, respect them a little more. Have a conversation. Say a goodbye. Don't just label every person who doesn't agree with everything you say and do and doesn't vibe with you all the time as "toxic" and write them off. It's very difficult to understand each other and we're often never on the same page as others. If we don't try, if we don't even encourage a discussion, how are we going to survive as a society? How are we going to remain emotionally intelligent animals? Do we really want to back track evolution? Can we really not just give a person a chance? Or are we so woke that we are going to post about boundaries and mental well being and compassion on our Instagram stories every week but forget that, rather willfully ignore that, people are not to be discarded at the first sign of something unpleasant or inconvenient.

Adulthood is essentially self-ownership, accountability, and the working understanding that one's survival/happiness is largely her own burden. Becoming an active participant in the authorship of your life is how you blossom into an adult. Everyone approaches that responsibility differently, and some don't even attempt to get close. Age is a matter of pacing. Adulthood is not inevitable. Some of us are children forever, scared forever, in denial forever. Sovereignty is a serious choice. And it is also an exhilarating one.

Wow, incredible list. We’re reading several of these in my graduate Black Feminist Thought class!

White feminists always want to know how to not be racist.  They want to be educated.  Here is the beginning of that education.  Use it.

Someday you will know that respect is more important than love.

Para cuando suceda, yo ya no sentiré nada.

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