healing takes time

just because she is sexually gratified by it, and even if she actively, enthusiastically consents to it, does not mean that the behavior/experience is suddenly harmless, or that it’s inherently exempt from critique.

if a woman is consensually with someone who is sexually gratified by hurting/beating/degrading/abusing her, if she herself is being sexually gratified by being abused, we need to be asking why.

a masterpost to help you feel better and get through the day. 

distract yourself

static noise / background sounds (helps you focus / feel less overloaded - I can’t study without this stuff) simply noise my noise rainy mood nature sounds jazz and rain rainy cafe

lots of things to do writing, painting, makeup, body care, even movies master post musical squares  lucid dream learn a new language make your own mind palace!! draw a nebula make your own font learn something new fun sites to visit bubble wrap game answer questions to buy rice to help end hunger! get a hug from a nice person microwave mug snacks

watch something  ultimate teen movie master post 80s - today bbc sherlock granada sherlock holmes pretty little liars hannah montana  ellen best moments

listen to music tom hiddleston’s song of the day masterpost my personal “tunes” tag

when you are sad

adisri’s tag abby’s tag cierra’s tag my tag

anxiety play with sand chill out zen garden (video) managing stress social anxiety tips anti anxiety masterpost the quiet place the dawn room tour of the stars identifying your type of anxiety how to cope with a panic attack anti anxiety foods make a thought diary dealing with panic attacks and anxiety (video) mental illness help apps

depression how to overcome emotional numbness coping with depression natural depression treatments which antidepressant should you ask for? depression test (not 100% accurate)

insomnia tips to beating insomnia understanding insomnia when to fall asleep according to sleep cycles (helps you feel more awake later) tips for falling asleep quickly

self harm alternatives to self harm if you already have, here’s how to care for injuries understand self harm and how to stop butterfly project (self harm prevention) tips for stopping cutting how to fade and cover scars how to explain scars (avoid talking about visible scars) just relapsed? read this. need to see blood? cut a white screen.

eating disorders different eating disorders explained why you should try to recover feeling bloated? preventing relapse why you need to eat learn to love your body recovering from bulimia don’t put yourself down how to boost your confidence self love loose weight the healthy way (blogilates youtube - great workout, healthy eating, and self improvement channel) suicidal countries (outside of US) suicide hotline list suicide hotline list (includes US as well as other countries) talk with someone or help someone! online suicide prevention - talk it out online how to help someone who is suicidal reasons to live 100 reasons NOT to commit suicide

abuse healthy vs. unhealthy relationship boundaries abuse hotlines understand that sexual abuse is not your fault understand that physical abuse is not your fault how to move on from sexual abuse understanding domestic violence and abuse how to escape an abusive relationship safely after silence (support for victims of abuse) do you think someone you love is being abused? healing and overcoming abuse speaking out after abuse

ptsd help guide for ptsd help guide for ptsd 2 (similar to 1 with more extensive self-help tips) how to help someone with ptsd 10 tips for understanding someone with ptsd coping with ptsd

asking for help telling people how you are feeling how to tell someone about your anxiety how to ask for help

restoring your faith in the world random acts of kindness caught on film (video) real life heroes (video) giving servers $200 tips (video) paying for people’s groceries (video) faith restoring  in case you forgot the world is a gorgeous place (video)

other master posts that may be helpful (: 1 2 3 4 5 6

Waldemar Cordeiro (1925-1973), Untitled, 1952.