Okay so I’ve been a bit drunk since my date, but I have to tell you about it, I have to tell you about TINDER, and why the hell its an actual gold mine. Tinder is only for the patient woman, the manipulative & stylish woman. If you’re eager to make money I suggest you don’t even try Tinder, try whatsyourprice & favourite everyone, or get a job until a man pays these bills. Tinder is for the heaux’s trying to sell their virginity, or those looking to get a car and an Appartment in the next 3-5 months. I tried tinder as a desperate sugar baby, a mysterious life connoisseur and a super positive & open book. All of them failed. But as soon as I decided to be a little bit of everything but also “me” that’s how it started working for me, because it created an authentic version of all of these persona’s, and men started to accept it as me. And they loved it. Here are steps, Spoiled GF Route:

1) Dress well obviously, don’t need much brand names but since you’re already seeing this you probably already dress well. SW Tumblr is a hidden gem and usually people know the 1st rule is to be attractive. Which means you’ll attract men of means with your femininity. Your hair, your shape, your etiquette & your figure. Sharp that weapon pointy enough to use it.

2) Find your culprit. Match with men that make a minimum of 6 figures. Bonus if he super star’d you. Anything like “executive, Vice- President” Sales director “attorney (precaution) , CEO 😍 Real- Estate yadayada; Less chances of pigs too than SA! Your bio shouldn’t be too much, many girls say “I want the finer things in life” which honey update just like SA, doesn’t work anymore. You’re talking about men of means, you’re talking about business they will see right through you. I’d say something like “great minds think alike & I wonder what you’re thinking” “you didn’t lower the age range for nothing did you?” Something short and cunning leaves mystery, hence them wanting to get to know you. Men are predators, make them believe you’re the prey. Make them believe women could never be more predatory than men. Idiots.

3) He messages you first. You have a decent conversation, keep it flirty, witty, smart and just sell whichever fantasy they seem to want. If you can’t read a man’s fantasy, spoiled gf route shouldn’t be your focus yet, read ho tactics & rummage through research! If you need a place to start, they either want a super sweet down to earth (works more for me) & young beauty queen or a mysterious, possibly dominant or exotic seductress. Yes, men watch too much porn. But, use it to your own advantage, read their stupid minds!

4) When he asks you out on a date, you need to choose the place. You need to choose a place with taste, nothing under $$$$, If its $$$ make sure it looks classy/ritzy/swanky. Say you like coming to this place, “the aesthetic is inviting ”. This will induce some chemical in his brain that’ll automatically give him the heads up that you’re expensive. And you didn’t even need to say it. If he suggests an impressive restaurant, act happy but like you’re used to it. If he suggests a drink date, say you’ll only do drinks if theirs delicious x ex:sushi involved & if he’s cheap unmatch. You have options. He doesn’t. You’re going to sell an image. NOTE: Always do generosity tests, he NEEDS to uber you (address close to yours be safe), hell if he’s obsessed tell him you think flowers on the 1st date are sooo romantic 😍 (Bonus for emojis if you’re playing sweet) You’ll arrive 5 minutes after he’s seated like its slow motion, heels on & everything. If you see flowers, he’s probably generous than not. A mistake we SB/SWrs make on Tinder is assuming men want to buy us things just because we’re pretty. A man will and can buy you things, but most likely when you touch him on his thigh/arm when you laugh, and after a date. Or 2nd 🤷‍♀️ But there are ways on making them spend before you even meet, I could tell if asked.

5) Chances are you’ll find one that arrived with flowers, uber’d you & is tolerable. And that will be the one. Or the ones* (never see just one). And you can create small emergencies like breaking your nail, feeling better with your maintenance on check (eyelashes, outfits), needing a hair shine treatment or a jacket for warm days. It starts small, yes, but it will be big in a short while. FLIRT before asking, if its over text? Send a pic of you looking sexy, and then ask 2 minutes later. It’s all about flirting, making them think if they get you x item, the sex part will come soon. Ask for things when the moment is right, when you’ve talked to him on the phone, laughed at his joke, etc. Little things like these, he accomplishes them until he falls in love.

6) Allowance: After 3 weeks of flirting and receiving small items like heels, a jacket, nails done or lashes, that’s when you know who’s who. If he says you ask for too much, VICTIMIZE YOURSELF. Say you never met a man good enough to take care of you :( Until you met him.. :( 😂 & he makes you feel safe & he’s the older man you needed without knowing it. LOL. When he says hes falling for you, say you are too but you wanna feel secure. And you know he’s a busy man (lol) so you don’t always want to ask for stuff. Talk about an allowance without the word allowance. And if he agrees, you got yourself a sugar daddy. If not, which would be surprising, cry on demand. Make yourself look like the victim. He’ll come around. Cry in Spanish lol. And soon enough you’ll get him spending to make you feel better.

7) Virgins: DO THIS STEP BEFORE STEP 6.

After a couple of weeks, months if you’re lucky, he’ll ask for sugar. You can choose to dip (& say you’re scared & he’s pressuring you 😂 he’ll buy you stuff to apologize (like designer ladies). You can dip again, maybe for good or after awhile hitting him up “I miss you” so he can spend again 😂

If you don’t dip, and want to lose it to secure a bag and secure bigger SW bags, you flirt, make/suggest him to buy you a couple items (like said before), drivers permit, “brazilian wax {always works}, etc; Until you analyze him falling for you & talking about sugar (sex). Tell him you feel like hes the one, that can make your body happy/ feel good (ew) but want to be cared for & your virginity is so important to you & can “only lose it with one man, because that’s a thing no other man in the world can have”… see what I did there? Men of means love rare things, untouchable things that they can “own”, he played himself there. Then list stuff like college tuition, your “life of debt”, your “sisters surgery” 😂 and then say for all of these problems to go away you’ll need : 5-9k (Choose a realistic thousand, you have more chances around these stacks, but if you’re in LA or NYC or another rich city you can easily go up. If you live in Kansas City or Saskatchewan lol, I’d say MINIMIUM 2k. THEN, if he doesn’t dip, you can try step 6. Virginities don’t sell for 100k. Cinderella escorts is a scam. Unless you’re a famous published model that pays city wide advertisement advertising her virginity , even that lol, you have more chances in this range. And honestly, thousands of dollars is a GREAT accomplishment than losing it with some drunk college fuckboy or a bored bartender.

I have friends that want to get into sugaring and as I started writing important tips I learned (some the hard way), I realized other ladies getting in the bowl could always benefit from some of these tips. You may already know these things or you may not, but here are just some things I’ve done/found helpful:

1. Fake name, home destination (unless you’re willing to host), phone number, and possible occupation. Delete yourself from the internet. Do not send pictures that are on your personal social media ESP if it’s an open profile. Never sync contacts with personal social media or sugar social media. You don’t want some of these “SDs” finding your real name. If I have to explain why to you, don’t sugar.

2. Set aside certain days/evenings for your sugaring. I try to keep one day a week per SD, unless they’re traveling SDs then that can be more sporadic. It just makes things easier when balancing multiple SDs/work/school etc.

3. WARDROBE. Most of the older men on the site want a clean, well dressed woman. Remember if you look expensive they’ll know what to expect in terms of financial obligations

4. Sugar persona. Decide who she will be. Is she the princess type or the girl next door? Is she outgoing and bubbly or the intellectual and mature type? This persona will greatly vary between SDs as well. Cater to who he is, play who he wants you to be and what he’s missing in his life, but most importantly, do what comes NATURAL. If it’s not natural it’ll be that much more exhausting to be with your SD, and being with him (unless you are v lucky) will be work.

5. Three words: Little. Black. Book. If you have multiple SDs this is even more important. Write down each POT, screenshot their profiles. Make sure you have notes on their likes, dislikes, occupation, address, things they’ve given you, allowance offers, family members names, etc. This will make it soooo much easier on you than remembering each little thing about someone you may not care that much about. That way, before you go on a date, refresh your notes. It’ll be that much easier to strike up conversation and seem interested in them if you know what conversation points to hit.

6. Slow down. Talk slower, you won’t trip over your words. Eat slower, you won’t be messy or appear savagery. Walk slower, you won’t trip over your shoes. You are a luxury. Good things take time.

7. Get in the habit of exfoliating and moisturizing daily if you don’t already.

8. Own a sugar purse. It doesn’t have to be anything designer (though nothing like a big YSL to paint a picture of who you are and what you require), even ones from Aldo can be classy if you dress them well. What I carry in my sugar purse is different from my vanilla purse. Vanilla purse: ID, credit cards, lip balm, headphones, mini perfume, blotting papers. Sugar purse: NO ID/CREDIT CARDS. Nothing with your name on it if you sugar under an alias. Continued.. travel size perfume, mouth spray, blotting papers, headphones, compact, lipstick, $50-100 cash, hand sanitizer & cream, lip balm, portable charger. The portable charger saved my life on many occasions. Just less fussy than finding a cord and an outlet and leaving your phone possibly unattended.

9. Turn off Bluetooth on dates. You don’t need it showing up on ANY devices saying “Sara’s phone” when you said your name was Chanel.

10. Sugar playlist. My SD lives 45mins away and he’s old and just not something I always look forward to. The sugar playlist has songs that are money based, songs that remind you that you’re that bitch and you deserve to be treated as a luxury. It just helps put me in the mindset to slip into my sugar persona and finesse cash outta these men. Some on my sugar playlist: “Glamorous” - Fergie, “Bitch Better Have My Money” - Rihanna, “Luxurious” - Gwen Stefani. Go with that kind of vibe and you’ll be set 👌🏽

11. Make a financial goal for yourself. Why do you want a SD? Why are you on SA? Answer these questions for yourself. Then answer them again as your sugar persona with a more “appealing” answer. You need to support yourself through school, you need money for rent and don’t get enough hours working, you would rather get to date and handsome man and spend more time with him than slaving away at a minimum wage job, etc. Play to his likes, you’ll know what angle to go with.

12. Do not get in a car with a POT. Do not let them pick you up/uber you from where you live.

13. Find places in your city you’ve always wanted to go to but can’t rationalize spending on. Make these places your POT dates. They should be expensive. They should be classy. See how much he will spend on you.

14. Don’t get drunk on POT dates. It opens you up to being taken advantage of and you may let something slip you don’t want to.

15. Phone on silent/vibrate, notifications turned off. You don’t want any POT or SD seeing your texts from family, friends or other SDs pop up on your phone. Don’t text on dates. The only text you should send is to your trusted contact of where you are, and MAKE SURE to say to SDs/POTs, “Sorry I’m just letting my roommate/friend know where I am and that I’m okay.” If possible, say that someone is expecting you later. This will let your SD know people are looking out for you.

16. Don’t trust that just because they invite you to their apartment/house/condo they are trustworthy. Airbnbs exist. It’s easy to fake a residence. Same thing with cars. These aren’t reliable character checks.

17. Know your desired allowance. Look in the mirror, say it out loud and confidently. You deserve that amount. You will receive that amount. Don’t compromise, you aren’t a bargain.

18. If your SD wants you to be “exclusive” and you have no desire to do so, block him on SA/tinder/wherever you met and say you deleted the profile just for him. Continue your cash grab.

19. Probiotic supplements. Condoms. STI checks. Fluconazole is the generic canesten pill. Sea sponges can be used on your period (after disinfection) if you want to have sex without bleeding everywhere. Carry a little lube on you and apply it right before getting with your SD. Be kind to your pussy. You’ve only got one.

20. And of course… NO MONEY NO HONEY. Get the bills before you do ANYTHING. This includes sexy phone calls, this includes sexy pictures, this includes him copping a feel. Get the money FIRST. Basic sw rule. You don’t want to suck a dick and then have him say oh next week, I’m short on cash today and then next week never happens and you’ve just sucked dick for free. If you wanted that you could just vanilla date fuckboys, and you are better than that.

Facebook uses your location (the default setting on Android is to use WiFi to determine location EVEN WHEN WIFI IS OFF) and determines who is in the same area as you for long periods of time and can use these profiles as the People You May Know section. I saw a SW on here post about how her client showed her that her profile popped up on his feed because her location was on… Squash all of that nonsense.

Sugar Advice: Never use the words Sugar Baby on your tinder bio. How did this man know I would be interested in a mentorship or a Sugar Daddy? I said it indirectly. Have you ever told someone you are hungry without saying I’m hungry? That’s exactly how you write your Tinder information.

Let’s Use An Example Stacy  “I’m looking for someone who complements me and appreciate finer things. I’m enjoying the beginning stages of building a company but the best part is taking off the suit and putting on a flattering dress and enjoying life…" 

 Did Stacy say she was looking for an allowance? A gift? A pay per meet? No, she is attracting men who have succeeded in business, and probably knows a young professional needs help (finances, and mentorship).

-big money

-finally having a good reason to buy excessive amounts of sexy lingerie

-camaraderie with other workers in your parlour/brothel/club/etc.

-being able to reduce the amount of time it takes to pay off debt

-being able to buy the expensive things you need and the things you want in one shopping trip

-being paid to explore sexuality and/or kinks

Cons of sex work:

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Why I Love Black People, Reason #8,372.

So last night, some poor intern at Yahoo probably lost their job with this tweet.

Learn to proofread, Beth!  Anyway, Black Twitter was not bout to just let that slide and the GOLD going down in the #NiggerNavy hashtag has me crying.  Now, I know some of my white friends/readers are slightly uncomfortable reading that hashtag, and that just means you were raised right.  But Black America has enacted a brief – very brief – reprieve where you can read and even chuckle about the n-word without collapsing into a puddle of guilt.  Note, this reprieve is not extended to speaking or typing, so I bet not see none of y’all’s handles on Twitter trynna participate.  I already know Buzzfeed is probably finding one of their many Black folks to compile a list and blur out the i-g-g in each tweet so they can post it and catch those clicks real quick.

And tell your Trumpublican cousins to stay out of our hashtag with their whining about how racist it is that we can say it and they can’t.

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Aldebaran, now with gravity activated.

Above: some very really attempts to get clean unwavering strokes on the first pass, using the old Bamboo. Most of the long strokes for the feathers didn’t always land where I had wanted them too, or they sort of wobbled at some point. Lots and lots of me grumbling and hitting ctrl z. I hid the sketch lines for clarity, you can guess at how much worse they were. Yikes.

Above: Feldspar modeling the cleaner flowing lines I’ve been getting with the new Intuos. I did not use a sketch layer for this one! We’ll see how it holds up drawing long lines for wings, etc. but already I haven’t noticed that infamous “Shoestring Stroke” I was getting with the Bamboo. *shudder*