About J. Laurens trust (in Hamilton)
ââ¨In respect⊠to the Commission, which you â¨received from⊠Congress, all the world must think your conduct perfectly right. Indeed your ideas upon this occasion seem not to have their wonted accuracy; and you have had scruples, in a great measure, without foundation. By your appointment as Aide De Camp to the Commander in Chief, you had as much the rank of Lieutenant Colonel, as any officer in the lineâyour receiving a commission as Lieutenant Colonel from the date of that appointment, does not in the least injure or interfere with one of them; unless by virtue of it you are introduced into a particular regiment in violation of the right of successionâ
âThe only thing I see wrong in the affair is thisâCongress by their conduct, both on the former and present occasion, appear to have intended to confer a privilege, an honor, a mark of distinction, a something upon you; which they withold from other Gentlemen in the family. This carries with it an air of preference, which, though we can all truly say, we love your character, and admire your military merit, cannot fail to give some of us uneasy sensations. But in this, my Dear J I wish you to understand me well. The blame, if there is any, falls wholly upon Congress. I repeat it, your conduct has been perfectly right and even laudable; you rejected the offer when you ought to have rejected it; and you accepted â¨it⊠when you ought to have accepted it; and let me â¨add⊠with a degree of overscrupulous delicacy. It â¨was necessary⊠to your project; your â¨project⊠was the public good; and I should have done the same. In hesitating, you have refined upon the refinements of generosity.â
I haven't ever put much attention to this instance in the Laurens-Hamilton relationship, however looking back in Laurens' character and personality is so valuable he trusted enough in Hamilton's opinion and moral to talk about his fears in accepting a new rank.
In general, Laurens looked to be a reserved person about his insecurities and fears, during the war his closest correspondence was with his father and Hamilton. Doing a quick research through him and his father's correspondence, the most remarkable characteristic thing in their letters are the amount of news about war, generally Laurens didn't expose his worries to his father. (Their correspondence)
âAs a Soldier, as a Citizen, as a ManâI am interested to
engage in this workâand I would chearfully sacrifice the largest portion of my future expectations to its successâ
From John Laurens to Henry Laurens, 10th march 1779
That phenomenon isn't strange, and it doesn't point an negative aspect exclusive from HL's parenthood, despite their letters lack of personal matters and are over all focused in communicating military matters, considering the time and their devotion to war it isn't a surprise: Laurens being the oldest son and starting to develop an âindependenceâ from his father through his work in the war, was expected to matter about military matters and stop searching comfort in his father, starting to being perceived as an âequalâ by his father.
In fact, what is strange is that Laurens revealed some of his worries to Hamilton, and even when a new rank can look poorly important for us, for Laurens was a big step. Again, during the war, Laurens develops (or reveals) the most characteristic parts of his personality and aspirations, far from his father's influence he could develop a circle of friends he could choose by himself, being in an environment where he could (try to) achieve his fantasies about honor and martyrs. It is pretty sure you don't need to read his letters to know the war was highly significant to him.
And is for this grade of importance that military life has on him, it's so meaningful he trusted Hamilton to share his worries about accepting a new rank. Being someone with the mind so filled with idealizations about how he had to be as âa Soldier, as a Citizen, as a Manâ the fact he let himself share his preoccupations with Hamilton just can mean he admired Hamilton as a Soldier, Citizen, and Man, and he trusted enough in his judgement to know Hamilton would give him a sincere and trustful advise.
And let himself be enough vulnerable to search advice and some comfort in Hamilton.
If we talk about his younger years, the correspondence is much more affectionate and personal, but this does have some explanations. First, Laurens, being a student, had mostly academical worries and generally those worries were decided or highly influenced by his tutors and father (Again, it's during war where he gains some âindependenceâ). Second, considering his position and the 18th century concept of masculinity, it was expected of him turning more serious and reserved, or at very least, nice in a way where worries or weakness couldn't be perceived, specially being in the middle of a war. Third, I suspect due to his great desires of perfection, in some way he limited himself in expressing worries and weakness.
However, it's pretty clear he broke this illusion of ideal man with Hamilton.
âFor your own sake, for my sake, for the public sake, I shall pray for the success of the attempt you mention; that you may have it in your power to act with us. But if you should be disappointed, bear it like a man; and have recourse, neither to the dagger, nor to the poisoned bowl, nor to the rope.â
The clear implication of Laurens' mental state is enough to prove to know Hamilton had a clear knowledge of Laurens' mental state, the fact Laurens trusted enough in him to reveal and trust those parts of him, not only going against of his hard self-views but also going against of what masculinity meant back then.
It's simply nice to see how Hamilton meant a secure place for Laurens (and how it was reciprocated), there are so many little details among them that just show how much they meant for each other. They both being obsessed with honor and glory, they were totally able to see that desired glory and achievement in the other, even after knowing their least liked sides.
 âI would not wish to have you for a moment withdrawn from the public service; at the same time, my friendship for you, and knowlege of your value to the United States, make me most ardently desire, that you should fill only the first offices of the Republic.â
âLet me know fully Yr. Southern affairs. They are interesting and critical. You are judicious and impartial. God bless you.â
Naturally, this isn't the only shows of trust Laurens had with Hamilton, but I had been thinking about this a time ago.