I believe Snape is autistic
(FYI: Iâm autistic myself and I have autistic children.)
Heâs lonely. He doesnât really have friends. We know of Lily, we also hear about Lucius Malfoy, but we donât really see their friendship which in my opinion is much less close than fans believe. As a student heâs so alone that no one but Lily tries to stop the bullying.
He doesnât participate in any social meetings. Heâs quite miserable during the Christmas in Harryâs third year. He patrols the corridors and the grounds instead of attending the Yule Ball. He doesnât stay for dinner after the Order meetings. He only attends the DE meetings because he has to.
His peers at school think heâs weird. Lilyâs friends from Gryffindor donât understand why sheâs friends with him. When Harry asks why the Marauders bullied him, Sirius says he was different, weird, he was an "oddball". Autistic children and teenagers are often bullied because they are perceived as not normal, awkward, weird.
He doesnât make a normal eye contact, he stares a bit too much. It can be partly explained by Legillimency, but he stared too much even as a teenager.
Thereâs a diffeence between how he speaks as a teenager and as an adult. It doesnât sound entirely natural, he definitely had to put effort into that. Itâs partly because he doesnât want to sound like a poor man with a northern (?) accent, but autistic struggle with fluent communication may also be a reason.
Heâs quite rude. He might be just *evil*, but he may just not fully understand how cruel he actually sounds. From his point of view heâs just honest and doesnât beat around the bush. OK, maybe heâs a little mean, but not cruel⌠right?
He uses sarcasm (a lot of autistics actually do), but he doesnât really appreciate Harryâs and other peopleâs sass, he treats their words too seriously.
He usually speaks coldly / calmly / without much emotion.
Heâs usually dispassionate, he has limited facial expressions. Many autistic people also have a "resting b!tch face" unless they try to look more "normal". Perhaps he isnât always as hateful as Harry thinks, perhaps itâs just his face.
He seems a little oblivious to other peopleâs emotional state and seems to analyse their behavior more intellectually.
He has special interests: Dark Arts / DADA and Potions.
His Potions ingredients must be very orderly, he knows immediately that something is missing and what it is.
He "loves" rules. Students are breaking the rules? He takes points or gives detention. The Marauders are bullying him? He wants them expelled. (While Harry deals with the bullies on his own.) Heâs caught Sirius whom he believes to be responsible for Lilyâs death? Heâs going to hand him over to the Ministry and the Dementors. (While Sirius and Remus want to murder Peter themselves.)
Since Snape likes rules and order, Harry who is a bit wild and unpredictable annoys him.
He doesnât wash his hair as often as he should. It could be partly because of his poor background (he was neglected, he wasnât taught to take a proper care of his hair, he didnât even have a real bathroom as a child), partly because he has no one to look nice for, partly because of the Potions fumes. Autism might make him care less about his appearance. (He does care about hygiene though. Apparently he shaves regularly and Harry would certainly notice if Snape was dirty or smelly. His sallow skin and teeth have nothing to do with hygiene, itâs a result of his poverty and malnutrition.)
During the Occlumency lessons heâs touching his lips with his finger while heâs thinking.
He has some sensory issues. He wears the same, a little baggy robes (they flutter as he walks). Heâs sensitive to light: his Potions classroom is dim (itâs in the dungeons, but he could brighten it up with magic); he makes his DADA classroom dim, even though itâs no longer in the dungeons; when Harry comes to his first Occlumency lesson, Snape waits for him in a dark room. (You know, people donât do things like that because theyâre evil, it doesnât make sense).
John Nettleship whom Snape was partly based on was probably autistic.