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Interaction through technology has become an integral part of the way people communicate today, as mobile devices become more accessible and user-friendly. This growth in mobile communication has translated into the world of online dating, with more people building meaningful relationships through dating apps and sites, without having to meet up in person. A new study by Venngage (a online dating magazine) has explored the possibility of falling in love with someone just by exchanging text messages. Ahead of Valentine’s Day this Sunday, here are some tips on what not to say if you want to turn an online match into an offline date. 1. The word "sorry" Research shows that the most damaging word you open with is “sorry” – finding that singles who used the word in their opening line were 56% less likely to get someone’s phone number. 2. "Wishy-Washy" Plans Another ill-advised message trait was being “wishy-washy” about plans to meet up, by suggesting vague time periods like “this weekend” or “next week”.Users who did this were 40% less likely to get someone’s phone number and an offline date.

People are screwed up individuals or at least what we have come across so far. What we want and/or need seems to contradict itself continuously when observed. This can be seen especially when looking at the types of people we date.

“Why do so many really smart, accomplished and attractive women  go for people we don’t deserve?” . In other words, why does someone who has the potential to be an incredible catch sabotage herself with such poor choices?

The answer is clear.It just gives you a different kind of experience and many of us like that kind of rush. Here are 6 Reasons why dating a jerk gives you an experience you can’t miss.

1. For Fun Obviously.

The idea of long lasting love kills a romance. You actually understand what romance is like when you know there are absolutely  no expectations. You can do anything without thinking about the “relationship”.

2. Bad is the new good.

Results show that women are more attracted to “bad” traits. No one actually cares how good you are.They know what’s coming but tend to complain later. Go “bad” experience new things.after all YOLO, right?

3.Don’t have to wait for the first move.

You know he’s a jerk and you’ll have no expectations.You can say anything .Go anywhere you want to, without thinking “why isn't he replying”, “should I text him?”

4.Why have one when you can have two?

When you know you are dating a jerk, the best thing is you are open to new people. why not look for someone and have fun at the same time.

5.You can be yourself.

Dress the way you want.Don’t feel like hanging out? DON’T. You don’t have to concerned about the little things which girls go crazy about in a relationship. Wouldn’t it make life so much simpler already?

6.Nothing Emotional.

No emotional touch.You know you are going out and having fun but in the end, you know who he is and you know what happens if you get serious. So just have fun, isn’t the only things which matters?

George Clooney and his new wife, Amal Alamuddin, are the talk of the town. But, it’s not all good things, as there’s also talk about their “bizarre” age gap: him 53, her 36.

In fact even, Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes, who were 16 years apart when they were married? Or, Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones, who are 25 years apart in age?

The age gap between a couple has always been a matter of concern for people. When it comes to dating, I am way too open minded. But, when you introduce your partner to people , you go through a variety of questions.I quite frankly don’t think of the age difference as having any applicable advantages, or blatant disadvantages. If you are an adult, and love a man who is that much older, that is something you have every right to do being a grown woman. Maybe you are older for your years, and maybe he is young for his years.

Here are a list of pros and cons to consider if you decide to date older:

#The Pros:

1.Emotional Stability

It’s no secret that people who are older are more stable with their emotions than people who are younger. It is often said that older people don’t have that emotional luggage and are more optimistic about love and dating.

which is hard to find in younger people. Younger people are more prone to getting hurt or getting more attached on an emotional level.

2.Texting game

She: “should I text him?” He: “should I text her?” She:”He said he would and replied to messages quickly.”

Let’s just admit that we all hate the texting game and when you date someone older. Your relationship reaches another level of maturity and you are above the annoying texting issues.

3.Jealousy takes a back seat

Since your partner is way ahead of these, he/she has already seen life more than you. He’s not jealous of your guy friends or has a problem with you going out with them.

4.Financially stable.

The age difference means that the other person has more experience than you have. It gives you both a sense of stability and also works towards the harmony of the relationship and you will never hear, “I have to focus on my career right now”.

#The Challenges:

1.Energy

I’ve had a group of friends whose partners were of age 27-40. When they plan to go out to late night parties it is seen that people with older partners never accompanied their partners. Older people are not as high on energy as younger people.He/She loves spending time with you, but may want to call it an early night instead of going to the next big party. Try to find the balance between going out and staying in.

2.Controlling

Blame the age gap, it makes the other person feel in charge of everything. It may start subtly , but this is often the first step for a controlling person. Maybe they complain about how often you talk to your brother on the phone, or say they don’t like your best friend and don’t think you should hang out with her anymore. Or they try to turn you against anyone that you’re used to relying on for support besides them. Their goal is to strip you of your support network, and thus your strength—so that you will be less likely or able to stand up against them whenever they want to “win.”

3.Afraid of commitment

When you come across an older man and learn he’s single, have you ever found yourself saying to your friends, “There’s a reason he’s alone and still single”? There’s always a reason, but the best thing is not to push. If it’s meant to be, it will be. For now, have fun and see where it might lead.

4.Difficult to go out in groups

“You can bring him if you want, but he might get bored.” I get that a lot. It doesn’t come from a negative place on my friends’ part, but they often don’t know how to react to my bringing someone who’s significantly older than them. I’ve done it, of course, and have witnessed some awkward exchanges between their twentysomething boyfriends and my own. It’s just something to get used to.