Sometimes when I’m having sex and wanting to get close to climax, I’ll start mentally picturing like old porn scenes I’ve watched or celebrities or random women to try and push me over the edge. I find my SO to be very attractive, but when we first started having sex, I think I was recovering from death grip syndrome/porn addiction bc it was very difficult for me to orgasm with PIV alone and I had to mentally picture other things to try and help. It’s much easier to orgasm now that we know each other’s bodies better, but I’ll still picture porn/other women towards the end in order to help me get closer to climax. Does anyone else do this and is this bad on me for doing that?

I've been having sex for years i had two long term partners and a few flings, but i don't even think I've ever enjoyed sex before until I met this recent guy.... From the moment I met him there was an instant attraction. Well once we got comfortable and started having sex everytime was like the best. He goes down on me first make sure I came then he goes for a few rounds and each time going down on me. I literally never liked head in my life until I met this guy. Also he knows how to work his d*ck that's forsure , he kisses me during sex he pays attention to my body, and even now last night I made it all about him, I sucked and rode him, ive never enjoyed watching anyone moan as much as I like seeing him moan. He puts his face on my face and we just stare back at each other and I'm not even shy with him. I actually had my first orgasm without doing it myself with this guy, last night I came so hard and we went two rounds and my vagina was like throbbed in pleasure I've never ever ever had that happen... all these years and I've never known such pleasure. I hope everyone finds someone like this. He cuddles me for hours and just rubs my back and kisses me for hours after it's so sweet he stays the night with me alot as well I don't wanna lose him thats forsure Any advice on how to keep him?

Dudes who have watched their girlfriend get pleasured or f**ked by another dude during group sex or threesomes, how do you keep from getting jealous? What is going through your mind that keeps you turned on or happy on that moment rather than jealousy? Are you ever worried she'll enjoy him more than you?

I have, apparently, a small vagina. And I am trying to find a strapless strap on vibrating dildo, but all of them are so huge that it would hurt to hold it inside while I’m playing with my partner. I need one with a SMALL bulb in the giving end. Any advice would be appreciated!

I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask but i am in need of some help. I am into a long distant relationship. My girlfriend(19) previously was afraid of masturbation, but recently she had decided to try it out. We had phone sex 9 or 10 times and those were the times she masturbated. Today she told me that 3-5 hours later after she masturbates, she witnesses mild ache below her belly button. At first she thought that it's due to some other reason but today she confirmed that the ache is caused of masturbating. She cannot visit a doctor for this because the mentaility in my country is yet to be improved and I can say that there's not much that place where she can be open about her sexual relationship. So I would really appreciate of someone who had the same problem or knows about that would give me some suggestion.

This morning, she initiated sex with me, telling me that she wanted to seduce me, and that I had to “follow the rules.” This was super hot, for all sorts of reasons, one of which is just her ability to state the things that she wants, in the bedroom. She ended up “making” me cum and told me that I couldn’t reciprocate, and that she would be thinking about it all day.

That was instant boner material and I ended up teasing her, and fucking her for a few minutes before I told her “now I’m in charge. You handed over the rule making after I orgasmed.” She begged me to keep fucking her until she finished, so we had sex for another couple of minutes before an alarm went off, when I whispered that she had to wait until later.

She is dying at work and telling me that she wants to straddle my face when she gets home. I told her that she would have to beg me first and that she may not get what she wants right away and the thought of her having to wait even longer after she gets off work today, to get off, is driving her insane.

I think I am going to make her dinner tonight and set a ten minute interval timer for 10 minutes, and on the 10 minute mark, set a 3 minute timer, eating her out for 3 minutes before going back to making (what could only be a simple dinner Jesus. I have no idea how I’m going to make this work) dinner. I told her that before she left and she was a whimpering mess.

I have ideas about binding her hands with a robe belt (something soft but strong) and maybe a blindfold?. A feather? (For teasing) rubbing her down with coconut oil after the light feather touch, rubbing my cock all over her naked body, teasing her clit with it, and just generally worshipping her body before finally making her cum, as she has requested before leaving this morning.

I am open to other ideas of teasing (including digital format), and of pleasure.

Your feedback/ideas here would be amazing.

Keep it sexy, Reddit!

I (23f) have only been dating my boyfriend (26M) for just over a month. Been on a lot of dates, everything is going great and we both have talked about being exclusive and wanting a committed relationship so there's no one else for either of us at the moment.

I stayed with him last weekend where we had sex a few times. We used condoms at the start but there was two times condoms broke and we decided to keep going. I'm on birth control and in the moment neither of us wanted to stop and it did feel so much better and I felt more connected

I'm going to stay with him again this weekend and he's suggested that since its already happened we might as well forget condoms

I must admit it does appeal to me but just always used condoms in the past.

Just a general announcement here.

I've been a mod of /r/sex for more than five years. In that time, I have long ago lost track of how many people insist on dropping "squirt is pee" in every single thread where someone is happy about squirting the first time, needing advice on how to squirt, etc. And very often, it is done with a condescending attitude.

Let this serve as notice that we are done with it. We don't allow body shaming in /r/sex. We don't allow kink shaming in /r/sex. To me, this conduct borders on both - and regardless, it is off topic and nonconstructive (both of which violate rule one of the sub).

So here's the deal. If there is a thread to discuss what squirt is or isn't, have at it. Tell us that you think it's pee. Cite that single tired study of seven women as "proof" that it's pee. Your content is on topic there, and is perfectly valid provided you don't shame or attack others ("ewww, disguisting, you're just peeing on your partner").

But if you chime in to any squirting topic that ISN'T asking about the fluid composition (i.e. if someone is asking for advice, asking for help, sharing happiness over squirting, talking about challenges it can bring, and so on), you WILL be banned on the spot.

We will not argue the merits of your opinion, as that's not what this is about. This is about being respectful and constructive. Violations from this point on will be subject to ban.

I've seen some discussion around the questions of "is squirt urine or something else?" recently (mostly in comments unrelated to the initial question or story).

My question is, why does it matter? If you enjoy bodily fluids as part of your sexual experience, does it matter if they're pee, a fluid from the skene gland or something else all together? As long as people are getting off consentually and enjoying shouldn't we be happy for them?

So this is a throwaway account

I was coming back from a party and kinda drunk with acquaintances kinda friends and in the car there was less space

So I said I will sit on someone's lap because there was no space. So there was this on whose lap I sat on and I was wearing a short skirt kinda outfit so when I sat on his lap he kept his hands on my thighs that was kinda ok but then I felt he got hard and I could feel him being hard but I was not completely sure about it but I think I am certainly right. I think he came inside his pants Maybe cus I felt something wet. I was also drunk so I wasnt sure how to handle the situation but it was uncomfy and all.

Issue is that what do I do about it and how do I tell my boyfriend about it or should I not ?

My partner really likes long blowjobs but I get really tired about ~1 hour in--mostly my jaw and the back of my throat get sore and my technique gets sloppy. Does anyone have experience giving blowjobs for more than 1 hour--ideally closer to 2-3 hours? Any tips for increasing my endurance?

Full quote from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wilt_Chamberlain#Personal_life :

" With all of you men out there who think that having a thousand different ladies is pretty cool, I have learned in my life I've found out that having one woman a thousand different times is much more satisfying. "

Me and my partner are both early 20’s, both female.

She started lexapro around 6 months ago, it hasn’t been helping her depression whatsoever. Before and when she first started them, our sex life was great. It was wild, fun, experimental, and I always felt really connected because physical touch and intimacy makes me feel loved.

She loved sex, and she was very touchy with me, though she didn’t love hugs or kisses. She just always wanted me to have a hand on her, or cuddle, or hold hands, and almost every single night we were together, without fail, she would want to have sex and initiate.

Now, we don’t touch, we don’t kiss, we don’t hug. Cuddles happen when we spend the night together and since she’s been feeling very unwell it’s not been often. The last few times one of us has initiated sex, she hasn’t been able to come without significant stimulation, she can’t get wet, and it’s made her feel really overwhelmed and like she needs to stop. I always, always respect this.

Though I love touch and am currently a little touch starved, I don’t entirely mind because touch is a consent thing and I love her and appreciate the connection we share regardless of sex or physical touch. I sort of feel like it’s selfish of me to say I miss having sex with her, because she’s the one dealing with all the side effects and frustration, but I do. I don’t miss sex in general, I miss sex with her.

Because of the overwhelm and it happening 3-4 times in a row, she said that she doesn’t even like sex enough to have it anymore, and she’s rarely horny anymore, and that it mightn’t be worth it to her to try again after the last time she couldn’t come. She’s borderline asexual at this point.

I keep reading about SSRI’s and how they impact sex, and coming across PSSD, which is dysfunction generally after coming off SSRI’s, but I feel like that’s the same thing she’s dealing with. I even went in the lexapro subreddit and read personal accounts, and person after person were saying they would be happy never having sex again, they don’t think about it after being on this med, they can’t come or get aroused like they could before…some people were anguished that it had been taken from them.

I don’t know what to do, or if this post should go in relationship advice (can’t cross-post), but I thought since it’s a sex related issue, you guys could help better.

Should I talk to her about the SSRI thing? Do you have any other advice?

I don’t want her to think I’m desperate to have sex or don’t care about her personal feelings, but I don’t even think she knows how terribly her medication can effect the ability to function sexually, and it isn’t helping her depression whatsoever, so I thought she should bring it up to her doctor, and without knowing about it, she won’t.

I find so many men dont know how to eat a pussy as enthusiastically as women know how to suck a dick.

PLEASE men moan while you suck a clit. Make noise and let us feel the vibrations from it and get your whole body involved and make love to it. Too often i see men who are dead silent and absolutley deadeyed just flicking their tongue over the same spot just lying there perfectly still like its work and it gets me out of the moment. Even men who claim they “love” eating pussy do this and i just think wow. It really dont seem like it. Writhe, grind your face into us and get spit everywhere. MOAN, goddammit.

I am not a pet owner yet. I was wondering how do deal with a pet when you want to masturbate or have sex. To me it’s weird to have your pet watching.

To those of you women who have birthed a child

Does sex feel the same as it did before birth of your child? Please comment if you got stitches too

Do you guys have sex as you used to before?

Sorry if its bad english, bc it’s not my main language🙂

So I (F21) have been with my partner (M23) for almost 4 years now and for the last 18 months our sex life has been almost non-existent.

When I was 18 I got the rod/implanon which killed our sex life due to my hormones going crazy and also making me bleed everyday straight for the year. We probably had sex like twice a month for the first two months, then maybe twice total in the remaining 10 months I had the implant in.

After I got it out 18 months ago we had both gained weight and are still at the heaviest we've ever been even though we're not even plus size its different for us. I think in the first couple months after taking the implant out we probably had sex like 1-2 times, all initiated by me. I started to get weighed down by the fact I was always initiating and had a chat to my partner about it, and they explained how they just weren't really 'feeling it' as well as they weren't confident in their body etc. I explained how I wasn't either and that obviously I am still super attracted to him and love him no matter what, but that I'd like to be more sexual and have it reciprocated and we ended the conversation on a positive note.

Whenever I initiated (maybe once to twice a week) he would always reject it by saying he's too full and feels gross, or is too tired and would rather cuddle up and watch Netflix. It easily amounted to over 20 times of me being rejected like this over a couple months so one day I got emotional when he said he didn't feel like it and so we entered a conversation of me asking if he's still attracted to me, if he is interested in sex in general or if his mind had changed, and how it makes me feel when I've literally planned to wear lingerie, eaten foods that don't make me bloat all day and he eats a whole bag of chips and blames the rejection on that. We came to a positive conclusion of him going to initiate more and me understanding he doesn't think about sex as much as I do anymore (he said he'll jack off everyday but only want sex like once every couple months, whilst I could easily go a week without wanting sex sometimes but then also sometimes want it 5+ times a day for a week). I looked into my period tracker app (because I'm only using condoms as contraception at the moment I had been logging each day we'd had sex to be sure I know we're not pregnant by accident/how long its been etc - can't be too careful!). I realise that we'd only had sex 6 times in the past year and they weren't evenly spaced out either.

I moved out into my own place 6 months ago so family is no longer an issue but we have only had sex here twice - once really drunk and once that he kept going soft during the 30 minutes and I really wasn't feeling the vibe either.

I communicated to him a month ago again about wanting him to initiate more but he has done absolutely nothing since. Its just hard because I've created multiple lovingly open situations for him to be comfortable saying he's leaning closer towards asexuality (literally asked him 6 months ago and he said no, he still wants to be sexual), or to communicate any other things that might be affecting this but all he's doing is saying he's feeling less confident in himself (in no way because of me) and so 'doesn't think of it much'.

Is there anything else I can do at this point?? I understand him having a lower sex drive than me but I can honestly say the last time I actually remember him initiating was in 2019. Shouldn't there be compromise?

We've even discussed threesomes or other things that may spice it up/increase the frequency and quality of our sex life but he's so against it (unless its a FFM, then he's keen even though I said we should consider both FFM and MMF to benefit both of us - except I know with the state things are in now there is no way either of us would feel comfortable getting a third person involved seeing as whilst we are emotionally intimate still our physical intimacy is super low right now).

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Reddit help!

TLDR; my F21 partner M23 has said multiple times he will initiate sex more instead of just me but he hasn't in over 2 years, our sex isn't great anymore and I don't know what to do to fix it as communicating doesn't seem to help?