My Sociological Paper: “A Matter of Choice”
One of the greatest feelings in our lives is to know that we are a part of a family that helps us in becoming what we want to be in the future, a family that will serve as a soil where we can plant whatever seed we want to become as it nourishes. They say that one of the major responsibilities a parent should perform is to become a role model to their children, someone who we can turn our backs on most especially in times of distress. But nowadays, some children are having hard times in knowing their responsibilities and priorities. And behind all these are reasons why they act a certain way. Could it be because of the family issues they are encountering? The amount of love and time the children are expecting from their parents? Or is it because of the parents who lack support and attention to their children? What if this family is the main reason why some children are physically and emotionally homeless? These are some of the questions we are ought to find out as we continue to observe how the family affects an individual, and how an individual relates and affects the society.
Being exposed to people of different backgrounds and personalities, we tend to judge them through the way they act and look without clearly knowing the reason behind it all. Family, as how it is defined, is the basic unit of society, which consists of a mother, a father and children. Inside the family is where we first learn the simplest of things-- on how to live, the foundation of our beliefs, the good manners and right conduct, and even on how we socialize to other people. A solid family that is rooted with love, security, consistency and integrity creates an individual who is a lot more confident and optimistic. Thus, makes it easier for an individual to relate to society. However, a family that is, in the first place, not rooted in love and not as solid as it should be is more likely to create an individual who has the high risk to have problems with their behavior, such as anti-social behavior, which clearly affects on how they deal with others.
Family issues like divorce, abuse (be it physical, mental or verbal), money matters, and the like affects and challenges the ability of an individual to cope. This can affect the person’s emotional stability as well as social stability. Once a person doesn’t feel belong in his/her own family, he/she tends to find the attention outside of it. These answers to the question why some of the youth these days choose to be with their own set of friends who has the same situation as them rather than with their family because this is where they find the attention and the love they were deprived of. The lack of guidance results to number of teens being sexually involved, and getting pregnant at an early age. While some people choose to be alone, as it worries them that they may not get the attention the same way they want from their families. Some experience a behavioral problem, which affect their performance in school, becoming even more depressed and has the higher risk of doing drugs, smoking, and drinking. One thing that can also affect an individual who is a product of a broken family is his/her perception about marriage. This can result to fear, anxiety and anger. Sadly, if this kind of pattern will not be broken and cut off, this can most likely lead to a generational curse. Or sometimes, even depression.
In the view of structural functionalism, a family has a lot of contribution on society most especially on its stability. Each member of a family has a role that is needed to be performed. As for example, a parent should be the foundation or basis of their child's attitude and character; they provide the needs of their child and one of those is education. Being educated has a great effect in the development of a child physically, mentally, and socially. Once a child was able to attain or absorb these knowledge and development, it may affect widely on the society that the child has. It may either be positive or negative depending to the development stage of a child. That is why the proper management of family and the role one should perform is very much important because it is the basis of what a child will become. To make the long story short, WE MUST WORK ALTOGETHER TO MAKE THE SOCIETY WORK.
Some say that family has its major role on building or breaking the life of one’s individual. The reason why a person acts a certain way is by the way he/she was brought up and the things instilled to him/her growing up. It is true that a family consists of a mother and a father to act as role models and to lead the family better, to discipline and commend every one despite the differences, to guide the children with their decisions and support them to where and what they want to become in the future.
But I also believe that each and every one of us is given the right to have our own free will. We are given the right to choose what kind of life we want to have, we are given the chance to change the past mistakes, and become a better self. Somebody once said, “Hindi mo kasalanang ipinanganak ka ng mahirap, pero kasalanan mo kung mamamatay kang mahirap.” Growing up with so many family issues is just the same as that. Yes, it can affect our lives, the way we see things and how we react to situations. But at the end of everything, we still have a choice. It’s either we choose to let those situations and issues affect us or we let it become our motivation to become better and a lesson for us to become stronger. #
--- Christine Dotillos, 2015
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