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this is exorsexism

have you considered that nonbinary people are not men or women, instead of people who don't fit the stereotypes of what men and women are?

I just don't think there needs to be a unique intersectional term for it

well of course you dont think being white and oppressed across lines of gender or class needs a unique intersectional label because whiteness is treated as the default which results in a situation wherein we exceptionalize antiblack racism and treat it as a wholely separate issue instead of addressing it as an issue of feminism people treat it as an issue of black feminism

this is an inherently flawed way to view intersectionality that it only matters and is worth addressing when one is not a part of the group treated as default when it matters always and should be addressed always actually

Specifically I don't believe there needs to be a term like transmisandry or transandrophobia because those terms came coined from MRA people that were saying it in a misogynistic context

this is actually even less true than you probably intended and directly and provable untrue in the way you stated it transandrophobia was coined here on tumblr by a trans man of color discussing it in an explicitly racialized context to describe his own experiences as well as many others not an MRA person saying it in a misogynistic context even transmisandry was not coined by mras but again by trans men to describe their own experiences

the thing you likely meant (being charitable here) is that misandry was coined by mras using it in explicitly misogynistic ways and thus transmisandry must have similar purposes except what context a word is used in does actually change why and how a word is used ergo transmisandry doesnt remotely have to carry the same implications that misandry does as the result of the words use and abuse by mras like some people seem to believe in fact transmisandry is a wholely separate word

but even within the charitable interpretation youre again more wrong than you likely know because misandry wasnt coined by mras but by male feminists long before it was ever adopted and abused of its meaning by mras

they feel like dog whistles in modern use as well

right and this is what i meant earlier when i said i understand the knee jerk reaction but its important that when you are talking social theory you actually consider the context and usage of a word in order to determine how and why its actually being used because one is a term stolen by mras from feminists in order to complain about aggrieved masculinity and the feeling they are not given what they feel theyre owed by the patriarchy and the other is a term created within a racialized context to describe a very real phenomenon common for (but not exclusive to) trans men and especially trans men of color to experience so that they can better explain their lived experiences

if you felt it was a dog whistle then you should question if it is in any regard being used in similar ways has anyone??? who is to be taken seriously on the matter ever said for instance that transandrophobia is when i dont get bitches or even said anything implying as much??? what evidence is there for you that theses terms have shared implications

because it makes it sound like men are oppressed for being men which we aren't.

right ive said this multiple times and i dont think you are actually grasping what im saying because yes men are oppressed for being men oppressed men are men and they are oppressed and it is because they are men in a minority group not because they are in a minority group their gender cannot be meaningfully separated from their specific unique form of oppression that is what intersectionality means

Misogynoir and transmisogyny combines two axises of oppression into its own unique term

again not to be pedantic but no they do not they do not create a unique term for two combined experiences misogynoir describes one experience transmisogyny describes one experience it may seem like theres not a real distinction between these two concepts but i assure you that is quite literally the point of intersectionality that one is not racism affected and sexism affected but misogynoir affected

and I think we need to find something similar to describe when only 1 axis of oppression is being combined with an axis of privilege

right but its not tho thats not whats happening again when racialized men and women are portrayed as overtly and overly masculine in negative ways that is not emasculation it is treating masculinity as bad and using that as a cudgel to oppress people and this as well happens invariably to queer people of every sort and even in fact to cishet people

that is the term misandry describes the reason the term was coined before it was stolen and misabused of its meaning by mras and in the context of trans men that is what transandrophobia describes as well

and we do have other terms for that such as anti trans masculinity

and the people who are major voices in discussing exorsexism address transandrophobia because they are willing to critique feminism as its constructed in primarily exorsexist ways and as well discuss ways in which people are oppressed under the patriarchy not simply because of their relationship to femininity

EVEN IF YOU HAVE A "VISIBLY QUEER" GENDER PRESENTATION, OR CONCEAL YOUR APPEARANCE, MOST PEOPLE WILL STILL AUTOMATICALLY THINK...

I can't tell if you're a man or a woman.

PEOPLE WILL HARDLY EVER THINK

You are neither a man nor a woman.

By which I mean, asks used to be WAY more of the tumblr economy. They used to be more common to send, and receive, and see. They were integral to the collaborative, forum-like behavior of old tumblr communities, not even to speak on the HUGE number of ask-blogs that used to exist to only be interacted with in ask-form.

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Kinda related to this, I will also note that Gooseworx is also someone who has not shown any sign of regret for her past actions, specifically the racist things she said. In fact, she barely addressed them. She made a really weak lackluster apology ("I'm sorry for everything I've said on streams," didn't even address a lot of the other stuff) after waiting a few days, sitting back, and doing nothing while Black fans in her community were being harassed for being "uppity." The only time she actually made a statement was a stupid joke statement about how racists should shoot themselves, again, after the controversy had moved into real life because of Plainrock.

Max Gilardy was not just "edgy", he was someone who drew racist carichatures involving racial slurs and then harass black people that would take offence with that. He had so many nword moments, even in recent memory (the now deleted gold digger tweet. It was an unfinished rhyme. You get the rest) that it is hard to even remember them all. He has only stopped actively engaging with right wing accounts, drawing tasteless political cartoons and posting an image of a fleshlight titled "ideal woman" within what, the last 2 years? Way after he has supposedly "regretted his past and apologised". Or when he made a blatantly racist depiction of Shigeru Miyamoto for his video about joycon drift complete with a slit eyes and a violently racist accent.

And are you serious? "He's racist" "Well I only heard that he's a zionist" Yeah that's what I said.

Remember when he made a blatantly racist depiction of Shigeru Miyamoto for his video about joycon drift complete with a slit eyes and a violently racist accent? That was in *2021*, years after his supposed change for the better

Or the fact that his Apu video is to this day used to shut up both racialised Voice Actors speaking out against racism in the industry (like ProZD, who to this day receives harassment for that very reason) as well as many minorities speaking out against racist stereotypes in popular media (primarily those from India)

And yet despite all that all he really had to do to clean his image was literally redesign his sona to be more goofy and make a cartoon show where he has fun with his ghost buddy.

"And are you serious? 'He's racist' 'Well I only heard that he's a zionist' Yeah that's what I said." If you meant to say he was a Zionist, which I already knew, that's what you would've said. Zionists are racists, but all racists aren't Zionists. Because I know most people would've said Zionist if they wanted to refer to him as a Zionist, my assumption was that you were referring to other instances of racism, not his Zionism. Still, my bad.

I also, explicitly, did not say that Gooseworx is not getting enough pushback. That's a brand new sentence. I said she, as in Gooseworx, has not done enough to rectify her wrongdoings. My focus is strictly on Gooseworx and the actions she took; not once did I talk about other people's reactions to her at all outside of the hate blog being bad. The actions she takes (or doesn't take) and how people react to them are different concepts, the latter being something that I do not intend to predict. So I ask you to decouple those concepts, and to engage with what I'm actually saying, not make up brand new sentences that I never even hinted at. These concepts are not inextricably linked. I could've been writing this, totally in agreement with you that Gooseworx has seen too much pushback and that people need to give her room to make up for what she did.

And that's because I wanted to be that person when I first heard about this. I actually wanted to be forgiving, and I'm partly writing this out of disappointment in Gooseworx that she couldn't even do that bare minimum. I still remember waiting for her to say something, anything, when people were attacking Black fans in the community for their beliefs. So, until I say "she needs more pushback," you have no grounds to say I believe Gooseworx is not getting enough pushback.

But, I do, and I'm confused as to why you think her lackluster responses to her own racism should not receive pushback. And that's why I want to ask what your primary concern is. Is it for Gooseworx to be held accountable by an upset public in a reasonable manner? Is it for people to have consistent standards? Or is it to not criticize Gooseworx at all because she's just a wittle baby? Because I wanted to think it was the 2nd option, but your response to my criticisms of Gooseworx being "a claim that actually the trans woman isnt getting enough pushback for her past actions," while constantly avoiding addressing Goose's own actions and inaction is making me lean towards the 3rd option. Why don't you want to talk about what Gooseworx actually did?

I'm still right to criticize you for assuming how I feel about her actions. It's bad form in discussions like this. But you're right that I think the level of pushback she has received is not enough given how little accountability she is willing to take. I want to see people talking about this until she and all the other people you have mentioned, like OneyPlays, Game Grumps, Max, and maybe Dropout (though I don't know what they did) are actually apologetic and actually do something to fix it. Pushback is not the same thing as harassment, hate fandoms, and "snark communities," and me criticizing Gooseworx for what she did does not mean that I want to funnel attention towards unproductive hate sinks that, frankly, aren't even good at their job and make wildly misleading, bullshit claims. Nor will I let other people off the hook.

Yes, by this point, I'd say I have contempt for her. Should I, a Black person, not have contempt for someone who can't even do the bare minimum in owning up for her actions, when I have literally outlined how bare the bare minimum is? She couldn't even do that? Seriously? In this world, respect is earned.

What about my tags? My tags are mirroring the tags that the original poster was using, tags that the original poster has been using since before I even started.

2. Sorry. I don't really believe you're black since a lot of people just say that on the internet to keep a discourse going since they believe that gives them more credibility.

Just say you don't respect black people at all. Calling out racism should not warrant this level of sweeping.

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there are people who would argue that many nonbinary people are not the targets of transmisogyny that they are affected by transmisogyny as a result of their relation to femininity and even if you believe thats true and that anything outside of that is simply transphobia (a somehow mythical ungendered form of transgender bigotry) it would be a semantical argument not a materialist one to say nonbinary people are oppressed for their relationship to femininity and that they are not oppressed for being nonbinary

because regardless of what you believe to be the greater cause of their oppression nonbinary people are nonbinary and wen they are attacked it is because they are nonbinary

the way in which nonbinary people are being oppressed is the topic at hand when we discuss exorsexism so it makes sense to center nonbinary people within that discussion and it is actually reductionist and exorsexist to try and boil it down to a binary matter when it simply isnt that simple and never has been

transemasculating is a nice term and one that is likely quite useful even but it similarly fits a limited scope of the actual experiences of men who are oppressed minorities because they arent just oppressed for being not masculine enough but as well for the perception of being overly masculine such as the case with men of color and especially black men who are routinely treated like adults even when theyre kids and treated like violent strong scary sexual predators because they are perceived to be overly masculine

and it also happens to black women!!! for the record a lot of what second wave feminism lacked in terms of addressing how sexism affects black women had to do with a very overly simplified view of what sexism is one that would not accommodate for the ways in which it affects black women not just because they are black but because they are black women kimberle crenshaw who coined the term intersectionality once said

"We tend to talk about race inequality as separate from inequality based on gender, class, sexuality, or immigrant status. What's often missing is that some people are subject to all of these, and the experience is not just the sum of its parts."

in other words someone who is both black and a woman is not just subject to racism and subject to sexism the core principles behind intersectionality (like all good feminist theory it builds on the work of other feminist theory) are based on the idea of double jeopardy the idea that being a black woman changes how racism affects you and how sexism affects you in ways that are unique from being a black man or from being a white woman and intersectionality says that these two identities and how oppression affects you based on the intersection cannot be meaningfully separated from the other due to this fact

black women who are treated as violent and bombastic and angry and overly strong and overly masculine etc. they are masculinized not emasculated in the same way many black men are but also in ways very distinct and specific to being black women

trans women (like myself) are also subject to being masculinized in negative ways in fact it is the excuse of why many anti trans bills exist the oppositional sexism behind it all and the idea that trans women are the opposite of women in all of the negative ways that we are brutish men in disguise sexual predators who will prey on your children and win all of the olympic games unfairly because (those perceived as) men are innately stronger faster smarter apparently

and marginalized men also includes 80% of all men in america btw!!! who are not just subject to emasculation by their class but also overt masculinization in a negative way thats why theres the image of the southern redneck who hates all gays and loves violent sports and does deviant sex acts with his family members and sits around all day drinking beer and beating his wife this image of an uncivilized uneducated redneck is not one that emasculates him or even paints him as a failed male!!! rather its an image that evokes all of the negative qualities associated with men within the patriarchies binary

it is not then a misnomer to point out that the ways in which marginalized people are treated as overtly masculine in order to stoke fear and hatred of said marginalized groups is a fear of masculinity!!! and its also not anti feminist to do so either because the reason masculinity can be so utilized negatively is because of the inherent oppositional beliefs many hold about men vs women the idea that women are weak and vulnerable and innocent

and similarly it is not a misnomer to call exorsexism a type of unique sexism that nonbinary people are subject to as opposed to pinning it on transandrophobia OR transmisogyny or transemasculinity or w/e else because the ways in which nonbinary people actively by nature of being nonbinary are at odds with the way in which oppositional sexism views gender and gender expectations and the systems in place that enforce those is not something that is simply attributable to sexism is one direction or the other