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When I tell people that my pronouns are pronounced like she/her (but they are accented), they default to misgendering me and second-gendering me. They will write she/her instead of ziy/hir. If I were to use it/its and ziy/hir, people would default to ziy/hir because it sounds like she/her — not because they want to affirm my identity. This second-gendering also includes gender and sexuality, not specifically pronouns. A transfem who is nonbinary will be grouped in with women despite their personal feelings around womanhood. Said enban could be a enboy who is transfem and likes femininity but does not want to be a cisgender boy or a trans woman. Calling said nonbinary man — a woman — because they are transfem, is re-gendering. Re-gendering is when language made to be expansive for nonbinary people are twisted by binary people to label solely sex-based experiences.

Transfeminine and transmasculine were both terms made to sit with nonbinary people who weren’t always transsexual women or transsexual men but something more than that, less than that, neither, both, or other. As such, because of binary usage, they were deemed to describe exclusive groupings of those with certain wants for anatomy, certain hormones, and certain genders. These two groups don’t determine sex, hormones, or chromosomes. They literally just refer to what you are presenting as/transitioning towards. The original definitions of both of these terms describe those who were assigned certain sexes at birth respectively but accounts for differences in anatomy, intersexness, and nonbinarity by referring to those who is “strictly undefined in relation to any issue of an operation.”

A transfem can be someone who is intersex. A transmasc can be someone with a penis. A transfem can be nonbinary. A transmasc can be someone assigned male at birth. The thing that shifts a lot of this around is that intersexness and gender imposition can vary, and since AGAB is a legal term not a biological one, it does change. An AFAB transfem does exist because of inconsistent gender imposition and gender-rearing during childhood. So claiming it is based on your assigned sex at birth is also strange, knowing what we know now as intersexism ramps up in queer communities.

What re-gendering has done is take those important terms away from those who don’t transition, from those who are feminine but aren’t women, those who are (originally) “fully female” but living in a “male role.” If we want so badly to do a game of Who Owns This Term, we’d have to reject the applications of a lot of trans people who are women who want to use transfem for themselves because they transition surgically and don’t live in a male role. But we don’t want that, enban don’t want to gatekeep a term for their specific gender/sex — only binary people do this kind of thing for things that weren’t created to soothe them.

Dyadism refers to the sex traits and the beliefs that there are only two sexes, and that these sexes experience completely different symptoms or are assigned different genders at birth. This goes back to re-gendering the splitting terms down “the middle” of male and female. Here, it is a lot more obvious. The current transmasc vs transfem discourse that has been happening for months focuses on dyadism coming from both sides. One says that the other cannot know their struggles because they are [a completely different sex] and the other says that their experiences are valid but my [sex traits] determine my treatment in life that is more extreme than yours. Two groups are generalizing the experiences of another using dyadism and split gender roles and oppression based on their “innate” traits of gender. This is referred to as lateral dyadism, as it’s from other queer people. Medial dyadism from someone (currently/unconfirmed) non-queer is using the binary to accept nonbinarity conditionally. We will only accept you if you transition, if you go on hormones, if you dress like your assigned sex, if you fulfill your birth role.

after opus, i'm honestly thinking about shortening the length of the books to less chapters, more length. one, its easier on me and my time constraints and two, it keeps me able to follow these books and get to the desired end of the series faster. i don't hate fins'above, i just want to see my characters defeat the big evil, reveal the truth, see their influence spread across the world, and create a better world. thats all. and me adding in filler between the important moments are good! but when the whole book is 30 chapters full of filler between the important stuff, i get the feeling that i'm adding in things.. for no reason?