Lady A

I wouldn't call him a rapist, even though he did take advantage of me. He is an idiot though. I believe that what qualifies someone as a rapist is wanting to assert their dominance and power over someone in a nonconsenual way. Even if they aren't try to assert their power of another human violating someone is a terrible offense. I think he was just trying show me that he liked me in the way he expresses it. The only problem is I was already trying to meet him half way by giving him blowjobs because I am grey-asexual. Also I told him I did not want to have sex five times before he did it. He did not understand how much he hurt me till later. I dont want to leave him or anything that would end up with him in a worse state. I want to help him but am not sure how. I got him into therapy, but I'm not sure how much it is doing for him.