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And Gaston is NOT a woman-driven fantasy. Gaston is a male wish fulfillment fantasy. Gaston is not what women want, he is what men want to be. He is hyper-masculinity to an extreme degree, dripping with sexism and testosterone. The fact that men think that Gaston is what women want says an awful lot about those men. 

While I don’t want to generalize, female fans tend to prefer a very different kind of male hero. We like the Rogers, the Milos, the Hercules. Genuinely kind, often awkward men who are sometimes vulnerable and respectful to women. 

“The fact that men think that Gaston is what women want says an awful lot about those men.”

“Not only is Gaston not a woman’s fantasy, he’s literally a woman’s horror story.”

At first, the military wanted to reinforce those areas, because obviously that’s where the ground crews observed the most damage on returning planes. Until Hungarian-born Jewish mathematician Abraham Wald pointed out that this was the damage on the planes that made it home, and the Allies should armor the areas where there are no dots at all, because those are the places where the planes won’t survive when hit. This phenomenon is called survivorship bias, a logic error where you focus on things that survived when you should really be looking at things that didn’t.

They talk of ‘owning’ things. Of being a badass. Of not giving a fuck.

And it hurts because you’re not strong enough yet. That person still matters. That thing still happened. You’re only human; what the fuck?! It feels like a demand; a pressure to be somebody you’re not ready to step into.

So let’s remember that in parallel with the standard not to be the person we’d rather not, is also the standard that we shouldn’t necessarily have to be the person standing against that.

Not straight away. We’ll grow into it, but not necessarily today.

Today it’s OK to be a bit gross. To stay in bed too long and not use this particular day in an ultra-productive way. It’s OK to give yourself time, not to rush yourself into feeling OK when it’s not quite time.

Let others call it lazy. We’ll call it self-care.

Opting out exists for a season, and then we owe it to ourselves to move on and step into who we want to be, but let’s not rush it. Life is short, but a shorter life full of angst and sadness is secondary.

So take your time. Don’t wallow and dwell, and do work through things and make sure you surround yourself with good influences, but it’s not a race. You’re hurting, and healing takes time, so rest. Please rest. And take this virtual hug.

- Steven Universe

- Lapis Lazuli

- Peridot

-Lapidot

- Pearl

- And other Steven universe related stuff

I am looking to follow more people who post and reblog Steven Universe stuff.