lilith aspects in synastry: i love seeing my dark side through you
I will be using black moon lilith. this applies mostly to major aspects, tighter the orb the better. check house placements as well!
part 1
sun conjunct/trine/sextile lilith :
lilith in this scenario is truly the đ persons dark side personified. the sun is a hot arizona morning and lilith is the dry dark night. with the conjunct specifically, a lot of mutual attraction is shown, the sun person represents liliths good side, and lilith is the sun persons dark side. together in synastry the two may be able to strike a really nice balance of energy if both can meet in the middle. the sun person will activate all of liliths traits, which could be uncomfortable if they havenât been exposed much to them. similar to the square/opposition something about being together feels a bit wrong but itâs more likely to be sexy then alarming. the flip side with the conjunct here is that it can go either way, if the chart is mostly positive it mostly an enhancer that adds depth, two different sides of the same coin. the connection will feel profound even if itâs mundane. with the trine and sextile, the lilith person will feel like the sun person really âshinesâ a light on their personality and can discover untapped talents. the sun person isnât likely to hold back the lilith in terms of sexual expression and spirit, theyre likely to âgetâ what/why lilith is the way they are. sexual undertones will be present in most interactions as lilith is quite sexual by nature.
sun square/opposite lilith :
this signifies a growth relationship. these two will learn a lot about each other but likely part ways if the other aspects are not strongly supportive. a lot of attraction for each other comes from how wrong it feels. the sun person finds lilith intense and uncomfortable at times and has trouble relating to the issues and morals that drive the lilith persons individuality and rebellious spirit. think diane nguyen and mr peanut butter in bojack horsemen. lilith has been described as being the dark uranus and thatâs accurate. the âď¸ person may find the lilith persons personality unpredictable, and with the opposition their can be a lot of back and forth energy of wanting to rebel or compete against one another, and a basic lack of understanding . there also could be a strong forbidden aspect, âopposites attractâenergy that entices the two to each other, maybe they canât be together for some reason, and keep trying to break the rules to be together only to realize the chase was why they wanted to be together the whole time. the sun person may soak up all the attention of a room, but then tell the lilith person they should have tried harder. lilith will feel challenged by the sun persons basic sun sign traits.
moon conjunct/sextile/trine lilith:
emotional bonding is likely to be strong in the relationship. the sensitive part of the đ is comforting to the lilith person. lots of subconscious attraction here, they may be on each otherâs minds a lot. strong feelings of being bewitched by one another. old baggage from both parties could be expelled and healed through this. lots of repressed energy finally breaking the surface between the two. the conjunct can go either way and typically is a mixture of both the best and the worst qualities of the trine and square. on one hand you feel an emotional depth that can borderline on obsession and turmoil all at once, on another, the intensity can feel rare and preordained.
moon square/opposite lilith:
this is not a good indicator if youâre wanting an emotionally fulfilling relationship. to be frank, the moon person is probably going to get their feelings hurt a lot. moon person may want a commitment that lilith is unable/refuses to provide, and the harder the moon tries to get consistency/commitments, the harder lilith will pull back. this is especially bad if the lilith person is a male as a manâs lilith typically shows the type of person he both craves and fears. if both parties are male, they may find they cycle through periods of craving and feeling repulsed by the other. lilith will trigger the moons old emotional wounds over and over in a much darker way than theyâre accustomed to. on an extreme manifestation of this placement one of these people (most likely moon as the planet person is usually the one reacting to the lilith) may actually have a mental breakdown from this contact, the emotional exhaustion can be nauseating at times. depression is a common factor here. on a more external note, it could be that the lilith person doesnât get along with the moon persons maternal figure.
venus conjunct/trine/sextile lilith:
intense, palpable attraction that hangs in the air like a suffocating fog in interactions. it will be very easy for this relationship to have obsessive tendencies even with the easy aspects. lilith will be the forbidden fruit to venus, and a cat and mouse game could begin. if the venus person bumps heads with the lilith persons natal venus in the chart, it will heighten the forbidden feeling, but beware of this aspect combined with hard mars aspects as the intensity could go volatile fast. the two will be very intensely sexually attracted to each other, and will feel unavoidable. lilith will incite deep, protruding, likely obsessive thoughts into the venus partner. this can be especially intense for people with a heavy influence of air/earth in the natal chart as the type of feelings that are generated between lilith and venus will feel illogical, and very irrational. this can point to a karmic link between two people. it will feel very much like you were supposed to meet them, even if youâre not particularly spiritual. lilith will want to get close to the venus person instinctively. interactions will be sexy and intense. good sex indicator
venus square/opposite lilith:
a relationship that takes the forbidden fruit and poisons it. this could be a toxic relationship. sexual attraction could feel as strong as the conjunct, but these strong feelings erupt jealousy and inferiority in the venus person. mind games and manipulation are not uncommon, as well as the relationship actually being forbidden, on a worst case level this could be a mistress aspect. lilith will probably enjoy having this level of power over someone, and could stick around for the sex. in astrology lilith represents a lot of concepts, but the theme of being âtoo muchâ is common. venus may feel at times that lilith is too much to handle. they may also feel as though they need to prove themselves constantly to lilith and live in fear of losing liliths attention, again, this aspect produces a lot of illogical feeling of attraction. strong indicator for commitment issues. they could go to extremes in order to make points made. issues with telling both parties telling the truth, hidden lies eventually surfacing and causing imminent heart break.
mars conjunct/sextile/trine lilith :
SPICY hot attraction. the feeling as though youâre plummeting towards the sun at 400 mphs. out of all the lilith contacts this one produces the most raw magnetism. this contact is also the most confidence inspiring aspect for lilith. something about the mars person just makes you feel sexy. if lilith is taken this will not stop mars from pursuing. especially with the conjunct, lilith will be the challenge they want. the two are also likely respect each otherâs drive and ambitions. they may have an almost taboo sex life, very experimental in nature, as well as frequent. could even be a possible nymphomanic aspect. goals the two set their eyes on will seem like easy prey with each other and produces a couple with an insane amount of endurance, but not stability. lilith may unintentionally encourage mars impulsive side and get them into trouble. the two could be partners in crime quite literally (especially if mars has negative uranus/pluto aspects natally but sun chiefly) a bonnie and clyde sort of duo that produces quite a bit of excitement but even the easy aspects make the arguments a bit more fiery. arguments could even be a bit of a foreplay for these two as this aspect is extremely sexual, makeup sex/breakup sex are very common.
mars square/opposite lilith:
an initially wildly, captivating encounter, that goes sour fast. the two may end up being sexually active quickly after meeting, but when these two arenât having sex theyâre likely fighting. whether that be arguing, actually physically fighting each other, these two simply tick each other off. mars may have to deal with working on a controlling tendency, even if theyâre not a controlling person by nature the lilith person makes them feel this way. mars views lilith as a never ending challenge to conquer. strong feelings of obsession that go both ways. at its worst the two may react violently towards each other over in an impetuous manner. a love-hate relationship with lots of departures and hate sex. the mars person may have a lot of issues controlling their temper. beware
keep this in mind: LOTS of factors go into relationships, a full synastry/composite plus house placement examination is needed for a full idea of your particular situation. also look to the signs they play out in. so as i always say, none of these aspects will make or break a relationship. đđź
























