The 'D' in D/s

Recently retired U.S. military (now a normal hours kinda guy). Former high school teacher.

Firmly anti-fascist / anti-magaT. Peaceful coexistence requires shared reality - if that bothers you, we’ll save each other time by not interacting.

I like good beer 🍺, Irish whiskey 🥃, a proper plate of wings 🍗, and a little herbal relaxation.

Gym rat, sports enthusiast, and perpetually planning my next trip somewhere interesting.

BBQ enthusiast — you’ll usually find me near a smoker 🥩🍖 with music 📻, a cold one 🍻, and enjoying the moment.

Cat dad to a small, psychotic demon who despises the universe but chose me for reasons unknown.

Recently out of a very long-term relationship. Learning what it feels like to be single, quiet, and unhurried for the first time in decades. Open to chatting, but also taking time to learn who I am as a single person for the first time in decades.

This blog is part of my journey towards exploring new and fascinating likes and interests, i.e., this is my escape from reality for a few minutes a day as I work through many layers of various trauma over a lifetime of insane injuries (too many to list) that I'm finally dealing with. That, and maybe to heal a little, and hopefully grow a lot. That's what this is primarily about.

I've loved engaging and meeting new people while exploring this new world as a "soft" Dom. (Meaning I'm not just showing up in your DMs saying degrading things, or sending unsolicited pics, without so much as a, "Hi. Nice to meet you. My name is ___.")

DMs are open for legal adults only (21+). Conversation > chaos.

Quick boundaries, because it's Tumblr:

I don’t spend money on OF / Fansly; aka, digital strip clubs. Not judging, make a little extra money by all means, but it won't be from me.

I’m not buying nudes, either (heavily implied above, or so I thought).

I’m definitely not buying hard drugs from random Tumblr dudes, seriously, fuck all the way off with that shit.

If we vibe, great.

If not, no harm done, life’s too short for forced chemistry.

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