Kitty Want A Fucking Break From It All

Sex is not essential. You can live without it. Full stop.

Not having sex isn't shameful or a sign of failure. It also doesn't make anyone boring.

You are not entitled to having sex with anybody and nobody is entitled to having sex with you.

Sex is not what makes someone an adult.

Nobody's worth is defined by how much sex they have or don't have.

Sex is not equally important to everyone.

You can have fulfilling and happy relationships without sex.

You should only have sex on your own terms, not because you feel like you owe it to someone, or because you feel like you'd be incomplete without it.

Know your boundaries around sex and be firm about them. Know how to respect other people's boundaries.

The previous point also applies when it comes to discussing sex. If someone doesn't wanna talk about it or hear about it you have to back down.

people always say that internet spaces are americanised because the users are majority americans.

and i do always wonder how much of that is "there are actually a majority of usamericans" and how much is "usamerican cultural markers are a default for many online spaces, and non usamericans are often indistinguishable from usamericans unless you're actively looking".

so here's an incredibly unscientific poll reblog for reach or whatever

Let me check in the back...

Spiny Weevil (Heilus freyreissi), family Curculionidae, Choco region of Ecuador

photograph by Javier Aznar González de Rueda

Filbert Weevil (Curculio occidentis), family Curculionidae, CA, USA

photograph by Ryan Kaldari

Nut Weevil (Curculio nucum), family Curculionidae, Lithuania

photograph by Lukas Jonaitis

Weevil (Cholus cinctus), family Curculionidae, Anton Valley, Panama

photograph by Charles J. Sharp

Banded Pine Weevil (Pissodes pini), family Curculionidae, found across western Europe

like i firmly believe people can change and grow, but the way that nonblacks are so quick to go "its not a big deal" to every instance of someone having a history of racism is frustrating. especially because they'll see it as a single instance, just petty drama, and never stop to think about how tiring it is to find out over and over with different people that someone you thought was a decent person had a phase where they thought your oppression was hilarious, exaggerated, or even deserved.

(and as a side note, a lot of you need to realize that racism isn't solely saying "i hate Black people!!!" overtly- its much more pervasive and seemingly innocuous than yall seem to think and people point this out over and over but it seems to be a brand new idea every time this rolls up again.)

and like, people always get to grow out of these phases and laugh about them like its a piece of silly trivia, meanwhile the people affected by these phases then and now are told to be quiet about even just being disappointed. and a lot of the times nonblacks will exaggerate a mild expression of disappointment as a violent "cancelling" or dramastarting.