how to feel safe - really, genuinely safe - inside yourself
safety is not the absence of difficulty - safety is the deep knowing that whatever comes, you will be okay - and that knowing lives in the body, not the mind
you build it slowly. like this -
collect evidence that you are okay look back at every hard thing you have been through - every moment you were certain you wouldn't survive - and notice that you did you are here. you made it through all of it. your track record for getting through hard days is 100% let that land
stop abandoning yourself in small moments safety is built in tiny moments, not grand gestures it is keeping the promise you made to yourself it is choosing rest when you need rest it is speaking up when something doesn't feel right it is being the one person in your life who is always, always on your side when you stop betraying yourself in the small things — the nervous system starts to believe you are trustworthy and then it starts to relax
assume safety the way you assume the floor will hold you you do not check the floor before every step - you assume it will hold - you walk without fear because that assumption is so deep it is not even a thought anymore this is what law of assumption is really asking of you - not to force positivity - but to assume the goodness of life with that same quiet, unquestioned certainty I am held. I am okay. things work out for me. say it until it stops feeling like a lie and starts feeling like memory
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