missy 🐞

i thought it would be really special to have a space here too, especially since i’ve received anonymous messages asking if my threads or posts could be shared on tumblr. so today, i finally decided to do that myself, in a way that feels gentle and true to me.

i’ve had two caregiver accounts on twitter. the first one, at the end of july, was banned due to too many fast interactions. the second one was created in early august, and i’m still using it to this day. the @ is the same as here and has always been. ♡

please feel free to ask me anything, send me messages, or simply interact in whatever way feels comfortable to you. i would truly love, from the bottom of my heart, to be close to you and share a soft space together.

oh! and if you’re looking for another place where you can feel welcomed, safe, and understood, i also have an agere discord server. you’re more than welcome to join and take your time there.

i wasn’t expecting this. /pos

here!!! welcome <3

yesss!!! and welcome <3

hmm, no.. but we did that on purpose, so like this the server don’t be center on this topic.

aww :(

if you’re part of the agere community and have been wishing for a gentle space to make new friends, feel less alone, or simply enjoy some company, this is a cozy place made just for that. here, you’re welcome to exist at your own pace, share little moments, talk about soft things, and connect with others who understand and care. no pressure, no expectations, just a warm environment where you can feel safe, seen, and free to be yourself.

it’s like a kindergarten!! we have a sweet schedule for activities, everyday of the week comes out some different activities for different age ranges. also, you can interact directly always, it’s very dynamic.

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hello! thank you for trusting me with something so tender. i’m really glad you reached out, and i want you to know that what you’re feeling is very understandable.

when a bond with a caregiver ends, it can leave a quiet ache behind. regression asks us to feel safe, soft, and unguarded, and after being hurt, your heart may be protecting you by keeping that door gently closed. that doesn’t mean you don’t want or need to regress anymore, and it definitely doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. it just means you’re healing.

please be patient with yourself. you don’t have to force regression or push yourself into a space you’re not ready for yet. sometimes the most loving first step is allowing small comforts without any expectations. things like cuddling a plushie, watching a calm and familiar show, coloring, listening to gentle music, or wrapping yourself in a blanket. even if it doesn’t feel fully “little,” those moments still count. they’re little acts of care. also i would recommend you trying to get more contact with the people of our community!!! i couldn’t regress for a little bit longer than a year, but having so much contact with our people make me feel safe enough to finally do it again, since i am a flip (+cg).

it’s also okay if regression doesn’t feel the same as it used to. it may come back softer, quieter, or in a new form altogether. your inner little might need reassurance first, time to feel safe again, to know that they won’t be hurt or left behind. rebuilding that trust takes time, and that’s okay.

cg sends a gentle,

“oh! did my baby get smaller?”

the little hides behind their stuffie, typing a tiny “mmh…”

cg replies,

Do you have any show recommendations? I've recently finished Puffin Rock which I really like but there are no more episodes!

I hope you'r having a real nice day!!!

-A

hi, lovely!

i do!! if you liked puffin rock, you might really enjoy shows with the same soft vibe, so let me se . . .

bluey, hilda, little bear, franklin, pingu, mofy, guess how much i love you, kiko & lou . . . and i also have this list right here

i hope you’re having a really nice day as well, thank you for asking!! ♡

“i’m not little, i’m big”

“i am not tired / sleepy”

“i can do it myself, mama / papa”

“i’ll never do it again”

“it was *stuffie name*, not me”

“i already ate / take bath”

“i don’t need a nap”

꒰ა by a caregiver ໒꒱

1. please tell them when you are tired while chatting over messages, those changes caused anxiety if they don’t know.

2. always do your best to communicate with them, communication is key. also, communication is very important so they don’t overthink things, which can lead to crises.

3. when you just disappear out of nowhere because you slept (for example), it causes anxiety and scares them.

4. if you are busy, always let them know.

5. they like to know if they can send some spontaneous messages throughout the day. because they feel like a burden.

6. offer reassurance even when it’s not necessary. validate their feelings, even if they seem small or irrational. feeling heard is extremely healing.

7. sometimes they just need you to remind them that you love them and are not going anywhere.

8. words of affirmation and quality time are essential to help a little one’s hurt heart.

9. send random messages throughout the day, it makes them feel remembered and cared for too.

10. always show as much love and care as possible. fully surround them with your affection, letting them feel and see how much you care.

11. avoid harsh criticism or words that could be interpreted as rejection. for an insecure little, this can quickly shake their trust.

12. celebrate small achievements and progress. this helps build self-esteem and shows that you notice and value every effort.

13. avoid long disappearances or unexplained silence. for insecure littles, this can create anxiety and fear of abandonment.

14. be consistent in your actions and promises. predictability creates trust and safety for a little heart that’s been hurt.

15. give space for them to express fears and insecurities without judgment. acceptance is healing.