tbh the first step in unlearning shame for yourself is learning how to extend dignity to other people at all times. you need to hold the same standards for everyone. you're not going to be able to convince yourself that you deserve that accommodation if you don't believe everybody is deserving of it

and i mean this really applies to everything... You're never going to not feel ashamed about your music case if you spend all your time judging others'... you're never going to not feel ashamed of your appearance if you don't stop judging others appearance.. Extending compassion to yourself requires you to extend compassion to everyone unfortunately :/ If you want to hate yourself less you should hate other people less

covid 19 just stop like for real stop it