if you want to hook up with someone and they want to hook up with you and youβre both honest about your feelings I donβt think you should worry about how either of you identify
if the mismatch in labels distresses you more than the sex would please you, then donβt. thatβs also fine.
you can always sit down and reevaluate later, if itβs significant to you
but itβs important to prioritize what is actually fulfilling and comfortable over what the imagined court of public opinion might say if it scrutinized your intimate life
In the end we're all individuals and the words we've made are there for us to try to communicate the similarities and differences we have with others.
There is no gender or sexuality essence, only the limited concepts we have to describe unique personal truths.
