Welcome to my world!

(ideally, we can discuss sexgender as a construct together, but I understand in popular discourses there is a lot of work to be done before the average perisex cis person (or, let’s be real, even the average intersex or trans person) will be comfortable and familiar with the idea that these are not distinct natural phenomenon that can appear “aligned” or “unaligned” with assignment but rather are part of the same social/economic/political hierarchy through which almost if not all global societies are structured)

but the immediate, most pericis-normative starting point, (at least within my own social context & I think in many others) is to start directly and constantly challenging the idea people have that “sex” and “gender” are completely distinct, and that “sex” is biological/material and “gender” is psychological/immaterial.

In 2025, if you say “gender is a social construct” even violent transphobes will agree with you.

They have named their movements (e.g. "gender critical") and slogans (e.g. "sex based rights") around the ideological separation of sex and gender. They do this in order to maintain the naturalized categorization of sexgender class through “sex,” while channeling all criticisms of this system as criticism of “gender” (which they then conflate with trans people specifically, and trans women especially).

The separation of these constructs is being used currently to displace and direct all grievance about sexgender based violence onto transfeminized populations.

I believe that at this moment, it is a strategic rhetorical move to begin to directly target this construct of “sex” which houses this ideological commitment to naturalized class hierarchy. Draw attention to it and challenge it whenever you can.

“Abolish sex assignment.”

“Sex is socially constructed.”

“Sex is constantly redefined for political purpose.”

“ASAB is not a euphemism for sex categories but a critique of them”

if one/both of your new roommates is a child you assume responsibility of that child