Pick a Card: How does your crush view/feel about you?
Pick one pile, from left to right.
Pile 1 🌸
I say, you’ve got your crush in a bit of a state! To your crush, there is something maddening about you, like an enigma, as though they’ve been handed a particularly tricky puzzle that can’t be solved. You are a fever in their mind. Everything about you is a question they cannot answer. They feel themselves slipping, losing their footing in the effort to translate your spirit of life.
They look at you like they see something they have never seen before. They watch you navigate the most hideous difficulties with the grace of a saint. You possess an aura that is quite dangerously bright; it doesn't just light up a room, it simply swallows everything in the surrounding. The funny thing is, you aren't even trying. You don’t want the attention; you’d actually prefer to stay under the wraps and just do your own thing. Your energy is like a solar flare. You could have strong Solar Plexus (Manipura), you could be a Leo or have strong Fire placements or Sun aspects in your chart.
Your crush observes that your self worth does not lean on the opinions and validation of others. They are amazed by the fact that you don't seem to need anyone's approval. You don't hunt for compliments from other people. You fill your own cup.
To them, you’re like a ghost that leaves a warm trail. You can be fully there one minute, and then gone the next without a single word. You don't make a scene about leaving; you just disappear into your own life. Just when they realize you're gone, they see a photo of you halfway across the world—learning Sashiko stitching in Japan or exploring Moscow. You’re always moving, always onto the next adventure. You exist in a constant state of ‘elsewhere’. Your crush thinks you are really good at keeping your private life and public life separate, effortlessly.
They view as someone who is fundamentally possessed with privacy. In an age where everyone is pathologically eager to be known, you feel no obligation to 'report' your life to the world. You don't pry into the lives of others, and you expect the same courtesy in return. You treat your life as a private collection rather than a public gallery; you have no desire to explain yourself. You mind your own business with such grace that it makes the prying of the world seem quite vulgar.
This lack of prying—this refusal to intrude upon the souls of others—is what your crush finds the most remarkable. You don’t feel the need to be seen to feel valid.
You are exactly like the sun. From a distance, everyone can see you, and everyone feels your warmth. But the closer someone gets, the more the light takes over. It becomes this bright, white glare that swallows everything up, making it impossible to see the details of your life. That is your secret: you don’t hide in the dark, you hide in the light. Your joy is the wall that keeps your privacy safe.
To your crush, you’re a contradiction. You’ve got this solar energy that pulls everyone toward you like a magnet, but you couldn't care less about the crowd. They see you command a room with just a look, only to watch you walk away from the noise to go nurture yourself in the silence, or spend an hour being charmed by a stray cat. You're the one person who has everything the world wants, and yet you want none of it.
Your most alarming talent is your sheer adaptability, how you can adapt to anything. Your crush may have noticed that you dive deep into a project or a place, and before anyone can catch their breath, you’re working it like a pro. You have this natural way of figuring out the hardest tasks and working around them with ease.
All of this makes you a total mystery to your crush. They see you like a forbidden fruit—bright, beautiful, and right in front of them, but with absolutely no way to get close. Everyone can see the light, but no one is granted the key to the sanctuary. It’s the most confusing trick in the world: to be the brightest thing in the room and still remain completely untouchable. They can bask in your light, but they can’t catch the star.
Since your crush finds it hard to pin you down, the ball is really in your court. You should be the one to bridge the gap. Find a moment and initiate a long, sweet conversation. By slowing down and giving them your full, undivided attention, you’re essentially "lowering the shield" of your bright light. It lets them see that you aren't just a distant sun or a vanishing enigma, but someone they can actually reach. Without that intentional step from you, they might stay in the shadows.
Your crush is petrified by you!
They view you with a most distressing mixture of admiration and resentment. They find you irresistible in a way that makes them uneasy. They hate how much they desire you. They resent how much they want you. How easily you get under their skin. They view you as their greatest weakness and their most violent obsession. A magnetic pull so vulgar in its intensity that they have no choice but to resist you. To them, your beauty is a provocation that makes their blood boil with a mixture of lust and genuine irritation.
They view you as an obsession that has taken over them in a way that feels like a bruise—tender, constant, and impossible to ignore. The pull is so violent they have to physically brace themselves whenever you walk into the room. To them, you aren't just someone they "like"—you’re a physical need that’s making them sick. They feel the pull of you like a punch to the gut every time you walk in, and it leaves them breathless and angry. They see you as this impossible tease, someone who is always just out of reach, and the frustration of not being able to touch you makes them act out. They’re grumpy and standoffish because they’re in actual, literal pain from wanting you.
They find themselves being possessive about you, having a carnal ache that is so intense it feels like a bruise on their soul. They feel a constant desperation to perform for you, to be the most articulate or the most interesting version of themselves. They view you as the ultimate metric of their own value. They want your validation.
They see you as a bit of a force of nature, someone who burns a little brighter than most, who feels everything a little too much. In your crush’s eyes, you don’t simply 'take an interest' in things; but you colonize them. They’ve noticed that once you’ve set your mind on a goal, you pursue it with a terrifying focus - be it friendships, relationships, hobbies, projects. They see you want things with a kind of certainty that makes the world feel temporary, like it exists only to rearrange itself around your will. And somehow, it often does. And when things don’t go the way you expect, your reaction becomes immediate. You don’t seem easily shaken. When challenged or misunderstood, you stand your ground and face it fiercely.
To your crush, you come across as someone who is always on guard. It gives the impression that you’re often having to stand your ground—defending your choices, your name, or your personal space. There’s a sense that you may have had experiences where things got amplified or turned against you unfairly, whether in a professional setting, socially, or through public perception (maybe your crush have heard some rumours about you form the past). Because of that, you seem careful about what you allow in and who you let close.
To them, you are the living definition of grace under pressure. You carry an energy that is both grounding and deeply unpredictable to those around you—in the best way possible. Your crush views you a survivor who refuses to let the past dictate your future. While others might expect you to be jaded or "bogged down" by the weight of your experiences, you carry on strong.
I really like this pile. It feels the most grounded, and it's the sweetest one out of all.
How your crush views you, sweetie, is that you are someone he could spend the rest of his life with—the person he'd want to marry, grow old with, and create a stable, happy family together. There are such strong, respectable feelings between the two of you. It feels like you're already in a relationship, or at the very least, you both know how you feel about each other.
Your crush's energy feels kind, genuine, and honest. I feel like the same energy is reflected in you as well. There's a sense of mutual respect, sincerity, and emotional maturity between the two of you. He is really attracted to you—I mean, really. The attraction feels incredibly strong. Girl, this is the kind of energy that says, "I could have babies upon babies with you."
I sense there may be an age gap between you two. I strongly feel the masculine energy is younger and carries himself like a mature man with responsibilities.
Your crush tends to think about you often. Whenever they see something, they’re reminded of you and wonder how you’d react or feel about it. Even when you’re apart, you’re still on their mind. I can imagine them sending you random photos or videos just to say, “Hey, this reminded me of you, hehe.” This is such a sweet energy, Pile 3. I am so jelly.
For some of you, this could be a high school sweetheart connection, with both of you staying strong together since the very beginning. For others of you, your crush may have been in relationships before - I feel like there could have been several. But with you, it feels like everything is finally falling into place. There’s a sense of balance and “justice,” like they’ve finally found what they were meant to have. And it’s not just them who feels it—their family may also feel that this connection is right. I’m not sure if you’ve met their family yet or not, but either way, their family seems very warm, loving, and welcoming toward you.
There is such a strong sense of family and stability in this pile. Your crush may come from a very traditional background, or maybe both of you do. Either way this energy feels powerful and grounding. They feel like two of you could build something huge together, something real and lasting. Almost like building empires side by side.
Pile 3, if you are not married, I feel like your crush is ready to come toward you and just propose and marry you right away. Oh my god, the energy is that strong. Your crush feels unstoppable when you’re by their side. It’s like you renew them, help them reinvent themselves, almost as if you’re a magic spell in their life.
Your crush observes you from across the room and that too with great focus. They’re fascinated by you, but it’s not just about what they see on the outside. It’s your brain. You are brain smarts. To them, your ability to have things under control feels like a superior kind of intelligence. They admire the way you handle everything. They just want to be in your orbit, hoping that a little bit of your composure might finally find its way to them. Lowkey, they think you’re really good with words and stuff—like you explain things clearly, write well, and randomly know a lot about that one niche topic that makes you stand out. They may have hots for your voice, like they can literally get off on that! (If you know what I mean.)
Your crush regards you, mon cher, as a “calm in the eye of the storm." You are the cool girl who has this steady, self-assured vibe that says you’ve got everything under control. They aren't just looking at you; they’re admiring your brain and your competence. They’re infatuated with how you always seem to have the answer, how you’re always three steps ahead of the rest of the world.
They may view as somewhat “off-limits" or complicated by external circumstances. There’s this uneasiness—like maybe there’s someone else in the picture, or maybe there already is. Is your crush already with someone else? Or they think that maybe you are with someone else? And if your crush is taken… maybe they would rather not admit their feelings at all. Because noticing you—really noticing you—would complicate things. It would make everything feel like a line they’re not supposed to cross.
Another scenario could be that you both are exes. You are both with other people now or at least one of you, but the new relationship is not real - it’s a performance. Each of you are trying to make the other jealous, trying to prove something like it’s a game, a thrill, a chase.
You still burn for each-other. You catch each other’s eyes, again and again, as if by accident, though you both know it is not.
Despite both the scenario, there is a forbidden sweetness in it, considering the circumstance. The cards show me that you cannot stop looking, and neither can they. And there is recklessness in it. The way you keep looking, knowing you should not, knowing it will hurt, but doing it anyway.
So they hold themselves carefully. Every glance, every almost-moment is measured. They are afraid of ridicule. Not only from you. From everyone. As if this should never have begun. As if even the possibility of it carries something shameful.
Sweetie, your crush is not rushing toward you anytime soon. I’d rather add, they will not make a move from their side, at all! He would maintain his distance. It is his way of protecting himself, of protecting you. Even in the heat of secretly, exchanged glances, he will still be careful. But let me tell you, he still cares for you. He wishes to liberate himself from these feelings that he is having for you, slowly. He does want to be part of your life. He wants to be there through your celebrations and your sadness. There's a genuine sense that he wants to build a place for himself in your world. But the timing is just not right.
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