Dr Tenma's Understudy

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1. Even if you do something embarrassing AND someone judges you AND talks about it to others, you really haven't done anything but improve their life. People like bonding over interesting stories. If I'm at the mall and I look strange or act weird, people at best don't care and at worst have a little story to tell their friends.

2. Talking about people is part of life. You probably have done it to others. What comes out of people's mouths when you're out of the room doesn't necessarily reflect their true feelings. Getting words out of your head can be how you check if they're true. Many people might say something mean so they can come to a more neutral understanding. We often think "said behind my back = true feelings" but it isn't true.

3. If someone is actually consistently talking behind your back in a cruel, mean way and being two-faced to you, that's actually them being in the wrong. You aren't responsible for that. You don't have to burden yourself worrying that you're doing something that would make someone act this way. You can operate as though everyone is being upfront and honest and not make concessions for passive aggression.

4. If you talk behind people's backs a lot and operate in a judgemental way to others, try cutting back on that behavior. It honestly helps you feel less scared of others talking about you.

5. If your friend group talks a lot behind people's backs and judges or harasses others for fun, try to discourage that behavior or step away. Seeing people obsess over others isn't good for your health, and those people's behavior isn't normal. Same with hanging out on dramamill websites etc.

6. If you actually concretely find people actually talking behind your back a lot, analyze why. It could be that it's bullying, but it could also be that people don't feel safe telling you their feelings. Think about how you treat others.

Got the idea from @rain-is-studying 💗

I was failing chemistry 3 years in a row (9th to 11th grade) here's proof lol

A chemistry teacher told me to forget about getting into med school because of my lack of knowledge 🤡

I got incredibly low grades on the first med school entrance exams

I was so bad at chemistry I didn't know where tf to even start

I barely passed Modul 4- Evolution in biology class

I wanted to give up like a thousand times 🤌

Moral of the story:

Hard work pays off! Never listen to what others may say and do not get discouraged by your current situation!

❥﹒♡﹒☕﹒ 𝗴𝗼𝗮𝗹𝘀 𝗶'𝗺 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝘄𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗲 𝘀𝘁𝘂𝗱𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗽𝗮𝗶𝗻 as an exchange student who's not a party animal

𝟭. study day by day ( 🪴 )

i am a big procrastinator and when it comes to exams, too often i have left it to the last minute and pulled all-nighters to get high grades, but due to the spanish school system, which includes many more partial exams and midterms than italy (actually there aren't any in italy at all) i will be "forced" to change this tendency of mine, the goal is to study the lessons on the very same day so as to have a greater margin for revision that will allow me to secure my knowledge.

𝟮. allow time to rest/recharge ( 🔌 )

i once read a sentence: "if you have two minutes to do something, it will take you two minutes, but if you have two hours, it will take you the whole two hours". concentrating for a few hours a day, but in an effective and meaningful way is perhaps my biggest dream, this year i will do my best to limit the hours of study and dedicate time to rest and tourist activities that my year in spain will reserve for me (parties and hangouts included).

𝟯. learning a new language ( ⭐ )

i don't speak spanish at all, but i understand it very well. studying and living here for a whole year will definitely help me develop my linguistic/grammatical knowledge to start a deeper study of the language. the more languages ​​you know, the better.

𝟰. get out of my comfort zone ( 🦋 )

as an introvert, i often find myself, especially during stressful times, retreating to my room, wrapped in the comfort of my favorite books and series. the real challenge will be to abandon the safe place for the unknown and finally embrace the idea that the unknown is beautiful, that it has breathtaking sunrises and sunsets, and that any scars that might come from it are as precious as diamonds.

𝟱. being proud of myself ( 🍋 )

things to explore on your self-development journey:

*ੈ✩‧₊˚ emotional intelligence

emotional intelligence (often abbreviated as ei or eq) is the ability to understand and manage your own emotions, as well as recognize and influence the emotions of others.

*ੈ✩‧₊˚ time management

time management is the process of planning and controlling how much time you spend on specific activities to increase efficiency and productivity.

*ੈ✩‧₊˚ new skills

learning new skills is a great way to keep your mind sharp and open up new opportunities. some skills you might consider include coding, data analysis, digital literacy, foreign languages, project management, public speaking, or creative skills.

*ੈ✩‧₊˚ mindfulness

mindfulness is the practice of being fully present and engaged in the current moment, without judgment or distraction. it involves paying attention to your thoughts, feelings, and sensations in a non-reactive way.

*ੈ✩‧₊˚ self-care

self-care is the practice of taking care of your physical, mental, and emotional well-being to promote overall health and happiness. it includes physical activities like regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep, as well as staying hydrated and maintaining good hygiene.

overall, it is about making time for yourself and prioritizing your needs to maintain balance and prevent burnout.

*ੈ✩‧₊˚ entrepreneurial thinking

HOW TO CREATE A MORNING ROUTINE!

⋆ assess your goals. consider what you want to achieve. do you want more productivity, better health, or improved focus (or something else)?

⋆ set a consistent wake-up time. gradually adjust if needed.

⋆ start your day with a glass of water to rehydrate. hydration is crucial for a clear mind.

⋆ move your body - incorporate physical activity through a walk, stretching, or workout.

⋆ plan your day! review your tasks and prioritize them.

⋆ enjoy a healthy breakfast,, fuel your body with nutritious food.

⋆ limit screen time. avoid diving into social media right or work away. try to spend the morning with yourself.

don't give up on studying; you're capable of achieving your goals with persistence and effort. remember, challenges are a part of the learning process, and every step you take brings you closer to success. keep going.

tricking yourself into doing tasks that make you nervous

you know the situations. when you get wrapped up overthinking and suddenly, this seemingly easy task seems horrible and daunting. here are some tips to help you trick your brain into completing the action.

visualise success. imagine how good it will feel once the task is completed. this can boost your motivation and reduce anxiety.

pair the task with an enjoyable activity - for example listening to your favourite music or having a nice cup of coffee while working.

promise yourself a reward for completing the task. it could be something small like a treat or a break to do something you enjoy.

tell yourself that you're just excited. you're challenging yourself. this positive gaslighting will help you feel more positive about your nervous energy.

🚩 you set up unmanageably big goals and short deadlines for yourself. (the fix: set up daily, small goals that are in accordance to your skills and possibilities instead of your desires.)

🚩 you beat yourself up whenever something goes wrong, and label yourself as a failure. (the fix: understand that the path of progress demands mistakes so that you can learn, adjust and level up, and that the only way you can fail is by stopping your work.)

🚩 you're constantly comparing yourself to the people around you, and expecting their opinion on you. (the fix: playing the protagonist role in your life doesn't mean performing for an audience, it means writing your own story for yourself. nobody is watching over you, unless you're inviting their gaze, and most people will try to bring you down rather than lift you up because they themselves are insecure and lost. you're risking placing your self-worth in the hands of losers.)

🚩 you complain about your life all the time. (the fix: you're alive, which means you're in charge of the endless project that is you. complaining is just self-pity, and your "poor me" mentality is an excuse you use to not put in effort and hard work.)

your life is your responsibility. your life doesn't "happen" to you, you're in charge whether you like it or not. if you're unsatisfied with your life, it's up to you to find out what you need to do to change it!