Im A good girl gone bad

Confess to God: Think about why you do it. What need are you trying to fulfill? Maybe you were bored or lonely or curious or just wanted to experiment and see what happened. Maybe the good feeling you got afterward is what makes you go back and do it again and again—just to feel something exciting for once. Maybe it’s grown into an addiction, and now you find that you need to masturbate in order to feel good at all, feel special, or even just to fall asleep in pseudo-happiness.

Whatever the reason, find it. Acknowledge it. Confess to God that you need a replacement to fulfill that need—something other than masturbation and/or pornography. Ask God to cleanse, renew, and transform your mind (Romans 12:2).

Find a Healthy Distraction: This is the practical part. If you know what the underlying problem is—be it boredom, loneliness, or whatever—then you can start to consider what else you can do to fulfill that want or desire. Every solution will be unique to each person’s situation, and only God knows what an appropriate, healthy alternative is for you. Ask Him! He’s not embarrassed to hear from you, and He won’t shame you. He loves you dearly and wants to help (Isaiah 41:10).

Know When Sex is Right & Good: Sex is not evil. Sex was invented by God; that’s why our bodies desire it so. But God’s command is that it is only to be enjoyed in the context of marriage. Sex outside of marriage causes all kinds of emotional and spiritual turmoil that does not help us in our relationship with Him. Once you’re married, you and your spouse will be able to fulfill each other’s sexual needs (1 Corinthians 7:1-5).

Now for one of the hardest parts: Find a Christian friend in whom you can confide about this problem and who will pray for you and help keep you accountable. Make sure this is a person you trust to call you out, check on you, and tell you like it is. That’s very important! A friend who will let you get away with things doesn’t make for a very good accountability partner. 

“Can I meet my future husband now???”

*Drinks coffee while reading the Bible*

“God’s really speaking to me, I gotta let Tumblr know!!”

“I know singleness is a gift, but I’d totally want to return that”

*Takes a picture of the sunset and quotes it as “God is an artist” on instagram*