Let's get started!
Not sure where to start but here goes!
here are a few words to describe myself.....
Expat, Muslim, in my fifties, divorcee, mom, working woman, business owner, only child, caregiver, good friend.
I would also describe my personality as...
scatter brained, funny, caring, dependable, been told I am smart but I don't think so, self deprecating!, ambitious, forever learner bit of a procrastinator...there is a lot of myself I am still figuring myself out and re-discovering.
I decided to start this blog as a type of therapy I guess. Hope I keep it up ! but I also started this blog to maybe help other south asian women who have been through similar experiences and maybe provide support and let them know that you aren't alone and we can survive and thrive !
How am I doing so far?? have i got your attention?
You are probably thinking what is a woman in her fifties going to share that is in anyway remotely exciting?? well I don't promise excitement on this 'blog journey' but I hope to provide some light entertainment with some cold hard truths and remove stereotypes of how women from a south asian background at my age may not have needs, wants and hopes for our future. Yes we are moms and wives (not me! ) etc.. but we also have dreams too and we should all be entitled to follow them.
To be honest I only followed my dreams and passions AFTER my divorce. Which is kind of sad really. My prime years between 25-50 were devoted to everyone else but me. I took care of my family, my aged in-laws and I don't regret any of it but I do regret forgetting myself in the process...losing myself...not allowing myself to be happy. I gave up all my friendships to move to a new country. Left my family behind to live with strangers..left all my happiness and youth behind to start all over in a new place. I didn't realize the impact it would have on me until after I got divorced.
I think I was numb for 25 years just a gerbil on a wheel trying to be a good wife, mother and daughter in law all the while losing myself and trying to make everyone happy but myself. I'm not alone most women from my background have done this and continue to but my question is why? and now as we question our worth and realize we are worthy of more, others don't like it, men feel threatened that we are finally speaking out or feel we have had our time and we need to continue to be in the background and not celebrate ourselves. Basically just shut up and sit down!!
