C4US1N' PR0BL3MS M4K3S Y0U F4M0US

still can't get over this as their reasoning for why it was ok for their partner to take nude photos of their [now] ex without h1s consent or telling hiim beforehand. like.. if someone tells you that they're into impact play, does that make it acceptable to just walk up to them and strike them? without any prior dialogue about it? if someone tells you're they're into humiliation, does it become acceptable to degrade them unprompted? obviously, the answers to both of these are "no" and it's really scary to see someone believe that interest in something somehow equals consent, or somehow turns what was sexual abuse (due to the non-consent) into a consensual exchange.

YES ITS ALL A NOTHINGBURGER. I GOT A HEADACHE TRYING TO UNDERSTAND IT AND I IMMEDIATELY GAVE UP CAUSE THERES NO WAY

i have never ever spoken to him like this before, i have never WANTED to speak to him like this or put him in this position, but i am angry and refuse to let him go without consequences. you do not lie about someone being abusive when they have gone against their very nature and changed the way they act to be nothing but sweet and loving to you. you make me sick.