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My dear lgbt+ kid, 

I got a few messages similar to yours lately - I hope harassing people who identify as pan is not becoming some kind of cruel online trend (like harassing asexual people sadly did). It feels like some people just randomly choose identities to mock and get angry at. 

I don’t see any reason why identifying as pan would make you transphobic. It simply means you’re attracted to people of all genders/regardless of gender - even if I try really hard to “think around the corner”, I can’t see how that could be interpreted as problematic.  

There is a misunderstanding about pansexuality and trans people that I have encountered before. Maybe this is what they had in mind: 

Some people think that the difference between pan and other identities is that pan people are attracted to trans people and everyone else is not. That’s not true. There are straight, gay, bi… people who are in very happy relationships with a trans partner. 

If we (wrongly!) define pansexuality as “attracted to trans people”, then I could see how people might think it’s an offensive term - it would invalidate other people’s attraction (and maybe even imply that attraction to trans people is “rare”). It could also been seen as a “fetish” for trans people rather than a real identity.

But that would be based on a false definition of pansexuality. If that’s what they base their panphobia on, it only shows they misunderstand what pan means - not that you did anything wrong. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom 

straight ppl who inject the concept of homophobia into the social structures of their magical fantasy worlds bc the concept of gay ppl being happy and accepted is too “unrealistic” and they have absolutely nothing to actually say about the issue and just included it for the sake of watching us suffer: 

TRANS RIGHTS!