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Sometimes our trauma isn’t about what we did experience but can be about what we didn’t experience as a child or didn’t get to experience as much as we should have.

It’s normal and valid to mourn the things you didn’t get to experience.

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i love reading so much and i love books, i love feeling like i know the author through their writing and feeling connected to them through their characters, i love relating to fictional silly people bc it makes me feel less alone and i also love not relating to them at all and seeing things or learning things from a perspective i never would've thought. i love crying in the middle of the night bc my favorite character got their heart broken and i love laughing like a maniac at 3am bc of a funny scene. i love romance books and mysteries and true crime books, i love fantasy books and the amazing, incredible world building in them. isn't incredible how one person can reach so many people with just one story? i just— i love books.

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but there’s no deadline for the things you do in life outside of societal expectation. it may feel like there is, but there really isn’t. there’s no set time frame to finish anything. you don’t have to have x, y, or z accomplished by a certain time. there is no countdown. you can graduate high school a year later than you intended. you don’t have to be done with college by 22. you don’t have to buy a house by 26. you don’t have to achieve all your goals before you’re 30. you don’t have to get married just because everyone else is. you don’t have to have children before you’re ready. you can wait. you can try again later. you can finish some other time. and it’s okay if you do: everyone has different timelines, different paths. what is right for someone else may not be right for you. just because someone else did something by whatever age, doesn’t mean you are a failure if you don’t. just because you don’t meet a milestone when you think you’re supposed to, doesn’t mean you never will. there’s not an expiration date. be patient with yourself, give yourself some grace. slow down.