The Comedic Disasters

This is just silly little place where I post about Bojack and Herb and also BJHM in general.

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But I also like thinking about scenarios where they enter the most dysfunctional friends with benefits situationship scenario for a while before actually getting together

Idk I just think it’d be funny if Bojack was so in denial that Herb is his best friend, closest confidant, and someone he’s banging regularly and yet he STILL doesn’t realize he’s in love with him. He keeps rationalizing it to himself like “I’m just blowing off steam” “he’s just attractive” “he’s just really good at sex” as to why he keeps coming back to him like that

Because physical intimacy is a hell of a lot less scary to Bojack than emotional intimacy. And sure, herb and bojack may have a lot of emotional intimacy in their friendship, but it’s hard for Bojack to admit that he wants more of that. He knows he wants something more out of their relationship but he refuses to admit to himself what that is. Because deep down he’s convinced he ruins every relationship he touches. His and Herb’s relationship is complicated enough as it is, their friendship has almost ended probably multiple times. But as tumultuous as their friendship can be at times, and as many friendships as Bojack has lot over the years, friendships still feel a bit less risky and scary than romantic relationships, considering how all of bojack’s romantic relationships have gone. Herb is such an important part of his life, he doesn’t want to lose him. He can’t admit to himself that he’s in love with Herb and desires a romantic relationship with him because that would mean he would actually need to deal with these feelings.

Anyway this situation would be very frustrating for Herb because unlike Bojack he’s fully aware he’s in love with Bojack and he knows what he truly wants out of their relationship but he doesn’t know if Bojack wants to/is able to give him that. And as much as he hopes that Bojack loves him back in the same way, he also knows that Bojack has a habit of sleeping around with people he doesn’t want a relationship with, and is very casual with sex in general. And he knows Bojack’s track record with romance. He knows how Bojack wants and fears romance, and how most of his romantic relationships end up crashing and burning due to his selfishness and self destructive tendencies. So herb tells himself that maybe it’s best that they don’t start dating no matter how much Herb wants them to. So Herb doesn’t want to take the first step, but secretly wishes Bojack would. The sex is at least something, right? It’s a part of what he wanted with Bojack. Even if it didn’t truly satisfy him, even if he’ll always want more… it’s at least better than nothing. So he should just try to be satisfied with it and not push for more.

The show tells an important story and I think it’s good they told it and I wouldn’t really change much about the show even if I could (except a few minor things like well. Season 6 would have been better as 2 seasons like was originally planned instead of being merged into one season. Also I don’t like how the show treated Ana spanakopita and also I don’t like the whole 17 minutes thing)

A) Herb would share in Bojack’s honeydew hating ways and they’d rant about it together

Or

Bojack: cuddling is lame and gay.

Herb: so, is that a no?

Bojack: um, no?? Are you kidding me? Of course u want to cuddle-how you you even think of depriving me of cuddles—