BANGTAN!@#%

adulthood is like....I’m trying to get back into the concept of having hobbies

admit it. you come to tumblr only for your cool girl mutuals.

[lays down on floor like lilo] ted lasso is a show about the power of being seen by someone; whether it’s as someone who is vulnerable and human, or as someone struggling to find their place, or as someone who wants to be better than they are and are grappling with what that looks like, or just seen period. keeley seeing rebecca, rebecca seeing keeley; ted seeing nathan (nathan’s invisibility and the surprise when someone finally sees and acknowledges him!), ted seeing roy and getting roy to see jamie, ted seeing sam and drawing him out so the rest of the team can too, coach beard seeing ted, ted seeing higgins. it’s about how, even when we don’t have all the solutions or cures for those problems, just saying to someone: i see you, i know you’re going through something and i get it, and i am here too, is a powerful act of kindness. how it can mean something even when it costs us all so little. how we all need that as human beings and also how we are all capable of doing that for someone else. it’s so gentle. it’s so kind. i’m going to cry now, please don’t look at me. 

it worries me so much that there’s been this (mostly unintentional) culture built up around coming out, to where young lgbt kids are putting themselves in danger at school and at home because they don’t want to “live a lie.” i just want to say, i came out when i was 15 and it created a lot of difficulties in my life that i could have avoided by waiting until i was older. it isolated me socially, it exposed me to homophobia from my parents, my family, my teachers, and my classmates at the most important developmental stages of my own confidence and sense of self… closeted people are not living a lie. closeted people are surviving. don’t let anyone pressure you to come out before you’re ready. don’t put yourself at risk when you don’t have to.