Lola

Thank you so much ^_^ And yes, absolutely. While doing research for that article I found such a ridiculous amount of famous women whose bisexuality was completely erased because it was more "convenient" to paint it that way. Like even the entire LGBTQ+ movement that we currently celebrate every year at pride events was started by bisexual trans women of color, but now it's seen as this fun cis gay white male event where companies go to advertise and pretend they care about LGBTQ+ people.

That's really a big part of what motivated me to write that article, because of this weaksauce progression of putting white cis men at the forefront of our movement and pretending like it's actual representation. So then straight people get to pat themselves on the back and say "yay we're so tolerant and accepting, but we dont have to feel uncomfortable because these are still white men" while completely ignoring (and sometimes flat-out abusing) all the queer people who are non-cis, non-white, non-male, disabled, multisexual, undocumented, poor, sex workers, etc.

Thank you <3 And yes, it's so rude really. Men do not get a say in women's issues. Ever. Period. I consider it a huge red flag when a guy tries to chime in with his opinion in women's issues. Especially with bisexuality, it becomes this free-for-all topic that everyone thinks they can chime in on and push their harmful opinions in. And that comes from bi men, straight men, gay men, gay women, etc etc, basically everyone who has no say in the intersection of biphobia and misogyny pushes this toxic crap onto us. 

The thing that especially bothers me about this is that even if bisexuality meant having to be attracted to men in some capacity (which lol hell no) that DOES NOT MEAN BISEXUAL WOMEN ARE "AVAILABLE" TO MEN. This is such a disgusting, harmful notion that contributes to our ridiculously high rates of domestic abuse and rape. Straight women who are attracted to men are not "available" to men, our bodies as women are not fucking available to anyone we don't give consent to. 

Ohhhhhhhh yes.

I almost solely date women and non-binary people now, and frankly I don't think I'll ever date a straight man again, like the couple of men I have been with in the past year or two were either bi/pan etc.