HEY! Hello.

people sound sooo fucking stupid when they use this format.

it still stands that you cannot both be a tboy and also transfem, which are two different things that come with different experiences and struggles. its practiy the same thing as cis women saying they are transfem because they "align with and identify with the transfem experience." which is to say cis women dont deal with the same experience as trans women. similarly, trans men do not experience the full range of what trans women go through (and vice versa). the direction of transition, medical treatments, the way your life changes, and the specific forms of dysphoria and discrimination are different.

it's not only pointless but actively harmful that blogs exist dedicated to telling people that any and everything that makes them feel bad or excluded in any way is the result of systemic bigotry against their identity groups. like take a look at this one:

this is someone who got made fun of for their music taste and is now embarrassed to talk about it. which sucks. thats a very understandably upsetting thing to happen to you! most of the people who interact with these blogs seem to be teenagers and i understand that shit like "other people think my music taste is cringe" is dead serious at that age.

but there is no actual bigotry happening in what's described here unless you believe that either the music of lemon demon and will wood actually have some innate tie to transmasculine identity, or that being considered to have a lame and embarrassing taste in music is unique to a transmasculine experience.

i am sure everyone in the world in every demographic has experienced an instance where they have felt like they can't be open about their interests or hobbies because they've watched other people get bullied for the same things. or been otherwise given the impression that liking those things reflects on them poorly in some way. this person does not need to be told "you are being subjected to targeted bigotry," this person needs to be told "anything you like will be thought of as cringe by somebody, so you should try and find social groups that are less judgemental or have similar interests."

the biggest problem with these blogs is they have no interest in degrees of severity. nothingburger stuff like this is presented with equal legitimacy as evidence of bigotry alongside stuff that's like, an actual problem. like literally sometimes its just just "an individual woman expressed a negative opinion about men as a category"

back to back with stuff such as talking about being subjected to medical neglect by their doctors, transphobic abuse by their parents, or being rhetorically excluded from discussions of their own reproductive rights.

and im sure the intent is for the weightier complaints to legitimize supposed "microaggressions" like these, but it instead has the opposite effect where it just delegitimizes you entire way of framing things by instead making even the legitimate complaints about real problems look like the insular griping of people with persecution complexes. and that's bad! that's a very bad thing!

obviously anyone actually dismissing legitimate complaints as overblown because of their proximity to illegitimate ones is in the wrong, and instances of that happening are not the fault of these kids who are trying to deal with their issues via questionable blogging choices. but it sure as fuck does not help anyone's case to conflate real problems and fake ones to this degree.

and to be clear even though the screenshots here are from the this-is-transandrophobia blog because thats the one i was just looking at, this isn't unique to them, this is not A Transmasc Problem, it's the whole format. this doesn't help anyone actually understand their own or anyone else's problems, regardless of to what degree bigotry is actually factoring into any discrete example.