I've been seeing feedees and feeders younger than me around, and in general I've been itching to make a post like this for a while now, when I was a baby feeder back then, I made many mistakes that cost me a lot. Please don't be like younger me and prioritize yourself.
β’ If you're gonna be someone who's gonna post your gaining journey or pictures of yourself at all, don't associate your tumblr account with a personal email, just for safety since there are creeps who have doxxed people before
β’ When your posts start getting more traffic, especially pics and such. You'll get a shit ton of dms, don't answer them all and don't feel pressured to dm or talk to anyone, a good number of them will be creeps or people who don't respect you, take your time and if you do wish to interact with them, choose wisely, everyone and anyone can be nice at the start of the conversation
β’ There's a reason why many feeders/feedees (such as me) have their dms closed
β’ Don't feel bad for blocking someone, if they disrespected you and they're still being an asshole, don't hesitate and don't overexplain yourself
β’ Be critical, just because this is a fat positive space compared to the outside, doesn't mean there's not fatphobia
β’ Just because someone might seem a "politically correct person" that seems to stand for what's right, doesn't necessarily translate to respect towards you
β’ I would suggest that you don't show your face or any identifying tattoos, cover them or photoshop them out if necessary, people have been doxxed this way
β’ There will be people who will only look out for you because of the free content you provide them, and when you stop giving them that, their communication with you will stop as well, my suggestion would be to not give out free content like that, at least not without knowing them
β’ There's misogyny in this space and quite a lot at times
β’ People can and will treat you in dehumanizing ways, your well being and mental health should always come first, take a break from this space if it's needed
These are just some tid bits of knowledge that I have learned from my personal experiences, stuff that feedist friends have told me and things I've seen in the community occur. This kink is fun when you engage it safely and with your own boundaries, darlings, please stay safe out there π
