"If I wouldn't do it to them, why are they doing it to me?"
Because they're watching you do it to yourself
The way we allow ourselves to be treated becomes the standard we teach other people to follow. Every time you ignore your own needs, excuse disrespect, abandon your boundaries, or accept less than you deserve, you're showing others what you'll tolerate
People don't always treat us the way we'd treat them. They often treat us the way we consistently treat ourselves
Now, why you're in that position is a different story. Maybe it's what love looked like growing up. Maybe it's fear of being abandoned, people pleasing, low self worth, or patterns you've never had the chance to question. There's always a reason, but there's also a way forward
The relationship you're willing to have with yourself is the relationship you'll often invite from others
