Can we finally talk about how Lorelai was emotionally and verbally abused, as well as emotionally neglected by her parents yet? Or are we just gonna keep on saying that she's overreacting and exaggerating how bad they are because she's a brat or whatever it is y'all call her?
Like, there are moments in the show where you can actually see them doing exactly that. A lot of Lorelai's behavior is in line with that of someone who was abused and neglected in that way as a child.
Stop saying they just "weren't great at expressing themselves," or that "she's ungrateful for everything they did for her," or some bullshit about her "overreacting" every time they do something for her whenever they finally start getting to a good place.
Most times that she "overreacts" is when they cross a boundary that she had previously established was there. Setting boundaries is an important part of any relationship and they rarely, if ever, respect them. Needing to put distance between them is a perfectly acceptable thing to need when someone constantly crosses lines.
I can't believe I have to say this in 2022, but just because they never hit her or deprived her of her physical needs doesn't mean she wasn't abused or neglected. Emotional and verbal abuse are still abuse, they still leave deep scars. Emotional neglect is still traumatizing to children and teens, it also leaves marks.
I think the worst part is that we openly acknowledge Jess's neglect and the similarities between the two of them personality and humor wise, but we never acknowledge the reasons why. In fact, people actually go out of their way to exaggerate Jess's abuse and then treat it like it's cannon and anyone who disagrees is an abuse apologist. There is no evidence in the show that he was ever physically or s*xually abused at any point.
However, both he and Lorelai are heavily implied to have been through emotional neglect (even physical neglect in Jess's case), as well as emotional abuse. I'm not sure if Jess was ever verbally abused by Liz, but I wouldn't be shocked if one of the many boyfriends/husbands she's had did due to how he talks about them.
You know what the difference is? Lorelai grew up rich and never wanted for anything food, shelter, and education wise, and Jess was poor. Also, he's a guy who everyone finds really attractive so woobifying him was naturally gonna happen at some point.
I'm not going to get into Lorelai's arrested development due to having Rory at a young age but it certainly explains a lot, and why she would feel uncomfortable seeing Rory hang out with a kid who acts out very similarly to how she did at his age.
Case in point, stop acting like Lorelai is the one in the wrong for having the relationship she does with her parents.
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