beanwitch

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At this point people are using Ao3 tagging system like it's fucking tumblr tags. It's getting real fucking hard to actually just find fic and at this point I think I'm just going to skip fics that don't properly tag things.

They were in love, Even if they hated each other, Everyone around them knew it, And they were stubborn till the very end,

That bullshit doesn't tell me anything. It tells me you don't know how to tag properly and that you have no idea that people are looking for fics like yours but can't fucking find it.

Enemies to Lovers, Slow Burn, Mutual Pining, + (Other coherent tags)

This tells me exactly what I'm looking for. It gives me coherent tags to search for. Put the first tags in the synopsis section of the fic, not the tags. Also, just because you make a tag, doesn't mean it's searchable.

On Ao3 there are things called tag wranglers and it's a hard fucking job because they are constantly having to wrangle commonly used tags in order to instate them as searchable tags.

the raven boys

the dream thieves

blue lily lily blue

the raven king

bonus! cdth

and mister impossible

urban gardening project, Hamburg

okaeri day 4 - bathing

“And I don’t think anybody should feel bad if they get diagnosed with a mental illness, ’cause it’s just information about you that helps you to know how to take better care of yourself.

“Being bipolar, there’s nothing wrong with it. Being bipolar is like not knowing how to swim. It might be embarrassing to tell people, and it might be hard to take you certain places. But they have arm floaties. And if you just take your arm floaties, you can go wherever the hell you want.

“And I know some of you are like, ‘But Taylor, what if people judge me for taking arm floaties?’ Well, those people don’t care if you live or die, so maybe who cares? Maybe fuck those people a little. I don’t know.”

I put off answering this for a while because I wanted to articulate a response without the sheer anger this ask made me feel.

You would have to be blind to miss the hatred and stigmatism that stone bottoms receive in the lesbian community. I've seen people call high femmes "straight" because they feel uncomfortable performing sex acts on women, but would be happy to receive them from women, which is baffling and frankly misogynistic. But I appreciate you likely hold a different opinion on the matter, so I'd like to explain why such an attitude towards stone bottoms disgusts me.

If somebody feels uncomfortable performing a sex act on somebody with a penis, people seem to be immediately supportive, never interrogating them (rightfully so) about why they won't perform oral sex on the person in question. It's seen as empowering. But if somebody feels uncomfortable performing a sex act on someone with a vagina, they are immediately vilified and gruelled on why. How dare this person have a boundary? They're labelled as selfish, and for that label to be lifted, they seem to have to go through a jury of arseholes and present excuses and cases on why their boundaries are valid.

It reeks of sexism.

I am abhorred by an overwhelming number of people in the lesbian community who have such a fundamental disregard for consent that they would guilt trip someone into believing their boundaries are insignificant, and that they're "not a real lesbian", for the sake of getting head. It's disgusting.

I don't know if I'm stone myself - my relationship with intimacy is riddled with trauma - but for the sake of this question, it doesn't matter. I care about pillow princesses because I fucking respect consent. When you've had an experience with SA, and that consent got violated, the idea that people use other people's boundaries as a means for gaslighting is nothing short of a disgrace. So I will only write for stone bottoms until they get treated with respect by the lesbian community, because for fuck's sake, there are so few places where they can feel validated and comfortable with their stone identity. I will honour their boundaries.