Bailey Shafer

Stay off my phone first thing in the morning so I focus on being my best instead of comparing myself.

Stay in touch with family. Phone calls with dad always put me in a better mood.

Eat food that makes me feel good. Workout and keep a water bottle with me all day.

Plan everything and always keep lists so I never forget I was supposed to do the thing or get the thing or go to the thing.

Stay off my phone before bed so I fall asleep right away.

Think about everything I am grateful for.

Following through with commitments to yourself. ✨ Using positive self-talk. ✨ Forgiving yourself after making mistakes. ✨ Taking care of your health (physical and mental). ✨ Not allowing others to disrupt your peace.

Because everyone is deserving of love.

💕Healthy signs💕

You inspire each other to be better

You feel a sense of belonging

You can have a healthy disagreements

You enjoy time apart

There are healthy boundaries and they are respected

You have fun together

You accept each other

You feel safe

You make shared decisions

Strong sense of thrust

Ongoing support

Realistic expectations

Shared values

Quality time together

Open communication (using “I” statements)

🚫Warning Signs🚫

Guilt trips

Isolates you from family

Unreasonable jealousy

Ignoring/excluding you

Manipulative/controlling

Constant put-downs

"I love you, but..."

Uses threats/intimidations

Blames you

Compulsive lying

Name-calling

🌤Reduce your caffeine intake

🌤Journal thoughts and feelings

🌤Use positive self-talk and affirmations

🌤Focus on the present moment (this technique for anxiety is called grounding)

🌤Relax your body with a hot shower or workout

🌤Observe your thoughts without judging

🌤Focus on your breathing

- If you don't face your fears you allow them to control you. Healing happens when you are triggered and able to move through the fear.

- Your attitude is important; your mindset will control your experiences. If you’re telling yourself you’re upset I already know you’ll have a day. If you think positive I grantee you have a better day.

- You can be the kindnest person and someone still wont like you. *say it louder for the people in the back* Don’t waste your time and energy on that one person who has their mind set on not liking you.

- Happiness is a feeling not a goal. It can never be constant. Happiness comes and goes for us all. We can’t beat ourselves up for not being happy all the damn time.

- Opinions people have of you shouldn’t have anything to do with how you feel about yourself. Opinions aren’t mirrors, they aren’t an accurate representation of who you are. You don’t need to waste you’re time trying to prove them wrong.

- Question your own thoughts. Not everything we think is the truth.