Bad Side B Suggestions

also, post suggestion:

Sometimes you just gotta think about women for a long minute and then wonder why exactly WE all got to be a piece of heaven on earth and are all supposed to love the other ones like COME ON absoluteLY UNFAIR

Hello and welcome!!

Side B is---first and foremost I'd say---a theological position, largely born as an extension of Natural Theology, ie understanding the Divine through Nature. The essential premise is that God designed sex and marriage to occur exclusively between 2 persons who are normally capable of having procreative sex together. (obviously post-menopause / infertile couples are not disqualified, but that's for another topic...)

That doesn't necessitate celibacy upon Side B folks (hello bi and trans and gd and aro folks!) though you're right its often practiced in that way.

More practically as you pointed out, the Side B Community / "Side B'ers" refers to queer Christians with this theological position, with the understanding that queer identities, labels, orientations etc are valuable as descriptors of the human experience.

But I think we do disservice by flattening Side B into just "celibacy," or even a refrainment from any and all SS relationships. I actually know a lesbian couple, one of whom converted to Catholicism later in life. She asked her wife to abstain from sex, to which her wife responded, "I choose you." They still live together, still share a bed, still hold the US marital license. Are they Side B, even though the wife isn't actually Christian? I'd honestly say, yes, in the practical sense.

I don't think the Side B definiton has really changed since the term appeared, but it's possible there's been a game of telephone as the community grows.

O Sacred Heart of Jesus, through the Immaculate Heart of Mary, I offer you all the prayers, works, joys, and sufferings of this gay.

file papers to adopt all the side b kiddos.